Fed up- back to square one after illness

[MsPea]

Feeling miserable this morning. When she was smaller, we found it very hard to get dd1 (now 8mo) to sleep anywhere but on us.

Eventually we did some shushing patting and crying in cot which we hated and caused much distress but it worked.

Now after a week in hospital with suspected meningitis(it wasn't), we -and especially I- have allowed her to slip back to her old ways. I am kicking myself so hard. And tbh, I have secretly enjoyed sleeping with her again, especially because in june I have to spend 2 weeks away from her in hospital, and I am having to stop bf which ismaking me v sad, and I got comfort when thinking of this in the night from her lovely little presence.

But I have done her no favours, I have created a dependency again when I owe it to her more than ever to help her be independent.

Feel like a real loser of a parent. Teel I have been pretty selfish. And dread doing crying again so much.

Ah MsPea thats a shame, but I totally understand how this has happened. You can't go back, so don't beat yourself up.

Mspea - Sorry you are feeling bad about this. I think you should do want you feel is right for the time being. Sounds like you are both going through it a bit at the minute so don't give yourself a hard time.

They slip back after sleep training very easily, especially after a cold or when teething etc. My DD (also 8 m) just needs a nudge every now and then to remind her it really is a good thing to sleep in her own bed and stay asleep all night Usually just a few minutes of crying and she realises what is happening and goes to sleep. I would suggest you give her a little while to get used to being back home then go back to the old routine, she will probably suprise you and get the hint very quickly.