Anyone done controlled crying but regretted it?

[Jellybaby75]

I mean for those who it worked for...I’m guessing if it didn’t work, you would obviously regret all that crying.

Did your baby change during the day? Was it worth it?

Following your post as I'm also interested. We've started controlled crying but we just had night 4 and it was terrible. Others were 'better'. X

No regrets, best thing ever.

It is tough, but does get better.

Took one day of not absolutely horrendous crying, and Dd now sleeps from 7-7:30 with perhaps one or two wakes ups on a very bad night. Takes me a minute to put her to bed now, just into the cot and that’s it! Instead of breastfeeding, rocking her in the pram for up to 2 hours, taking her out for walks at 9pm because she just would not sleep.

Best thing I ever did! She’s much happier in the day because she’s actually getting enough rest now. Total game changer

Another vote for No regrets, absolutely worth it.

We did it at 13 months when lb would no longer be fed or rocked to sleep, it was a nightmare to put.him down. He did not sleep through until 18months but that was never our intention. It did mean that he would happily go to sleep on his own, and bed time is very easy now (he's 2). No regrets, I'd do it again but this labour what you want out of it, at 1 I knew my lb still needed milk at night as he was a bad eater

I did it with my first child. She became a marvellous sleeper but is terribly anxious. There were a couple of times she was crying for a reason and we didn't realise it (to say what is quite outing), and I feel so guilty about that.
I don't know how much her anxiety is related to the sleep issue (or if it's caused by something else) however since the aforementioned incident I have never let her cry during night and usually stay until she is asleep. Anxiety levels in everyone are a lot lower.

As above poster said did it for my youngest and it worked well for first 2 years bit then she became very anxious and next few years suffered with night terrors and nightmares. She's also not as confident and trusting as my youngest. Might just be different personalities though. If you can hang on I think sleep naturally gets better after about 2 xx

It’s not too late to stop they really do need their parents at nighttime as well as daytime. I’m not trying to shame anyone or put anyone down, but there’s so much more awareness now about what is normal baby sleep. They cry to signal a need for you they’re not trying to manipulate you and it will all right itself in the end.

My friend regretted it because even though it worked the first time when anything happened like illness or holiday she ended up having to go through it again. We did the gentler gradual withdrawal/retreat and found that when he was ill or when we went away we just went back one step in the process and when things were settled again he slept through again.

We did it with DD1. She is incredibly anxious child now, at 5 years old. With DD2, we bedshared to 24 months and then gently transitioned to her cot after that.

No regrets. I waited until 15 months when I was really confident that I knew the difference between upset crying and grizzly crying. It took maybe three days and he has slept through pretty much every night since, the only exceptions being when he's been very unwell and he's almost 3 now. I also haven't had to re-train after illnesses, he just goes back to his good sleep routine by himself. He has always been a very happy, confident boy.

No regrets. Did it at 13m as he would not go to sleep and I was going back to work. Took 3 nights then about a month of just a quick cuddle & back in the cot. The point is not to let them think that you’re not there, just that you are, but there’s no feeding, rocking, co sleeping etc etc. I was a much better parent after as I was not exhausted and had more energy to play etc. However do make sure lo isn’t ill or having night terrors or anything else first.