Newborn only sleeps if held

[lauraSW]

My baby is 10 days old & just will not settle for more than 15-30 mins of placed in her carrycot or bedside crib no matter how deeply asleep when placed down. She'll sleep 2-3 hour stints on us.
I'm really not comfortable with the idea of cosleeping and on the one occasion i cracked and put her in our bed I didn't sleep a wink & she didn't sleep much longer anyway.
We've tried swaddling, a muslin with my scent, warming her mattress/grosnug, Ewan the sheep & even the Babymoov cushion (daytime supervised only) and still no progress.
It tough as we're taking it in shifts to hold her/sleep and can't sustain that once hubby is back at work. I don't feel safe holding her when I'm almost nodding off!
If anyone could suggest anything else we should try or tell me how they dealt with similar I'd really appreciate it
I'm spending my days in a daze fretting about hubby going back to work as I couldn't cope without him at present and I'm not getting anything done as my arms are constantly full.
It's also making me consider stopping breastfeeding so family will be able to help out. She's too young for a feed pattern to have established and so asking people to come over for a few hours won't help mid cluster feed!
It's really starting to get me down, I feel anxious and my heart starts racing if i hear her start crying when hubby has her for me to nap.
Any advice appreciated x

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Thank you for all of the advice!
Unfortunately there still hasn't been any progress. We tried following co-sleeping guidelines as I'm so worried about falling asleep with her on me & figured planning to sleep with her was safer...she still sleeps in a very unsettled manner then wakes within 30-45mins only settling when fed/held so no better than in the crib.
I really don't know what to do & dread the night times.
TShe has reflux too so I'm having to feed 2 hourly and keep her upright 20-30 mins post feed so we only have a short sleep window anyway! I don't see how I can cope when husband is back at work, I feel like a failure. Was it not for the reflux it would be easy to throw the towel in with BF to get a bit more support from family but FF may make that issue worse!
I feel like I'm barely surviving the day at the moment & feel very guilty not to be enjoying our new addition!

@lauraSW I'm sure you said something about a docs appointment concerning the reflux, have you had it yet or of I'm wrong I would strongly suggest going back to them and nagging.

I know you feel like a failure and possibly like you might not survive this sane but I promise you will and you are not a failure.

I know your DH may have work but tbh I think taking turns so you can both sleep is going to be your only option, especially seeing as you have tried others and they haven't worked out. You can get specific formulas designed to help combat reflux but if you suspect CMPA then I would go through the doc about those. I was lucky and once we had lanzoprozale things improved so much for us I didn't need to give up BF, I really hope you can find something that works for you.

FWIW things improved for us after 6 weeks, then again at 4 months when we finally got DDs silent reflux treated and then again at about 6 months. It will pass OP.

Have you tried tilting the cot so that her head is slightly higher? I think some of the next to me type cribs have a tilt setting?

Otherwise try putting her in the cot with couple of books under feet at the head end.

This could help if it's digestion disrupting her sleep. I noticed when I was on the postnatal ward that the midwives tilted the vast majority of the cribs so that baby's head was slightly higher so I assume there's something in it.

It's not a holiday with a newborn is it? Thank goodness I had no idea or we might not have bothered. But here's how we are coping (2 month old preemie, 5 week corrected age);
Combination feeding using ebm when possible or formula when not, as it's hard to express when he feeds do often. Had hospital loan pump initially but finding manual pump more convenient. DP takes care of DS in evenings after I feed him around 9:30pm I go to bed and sleep for as long as I can then nurse through night.
Baby wearing - little man loves his sling. We had consultation from local sling library as DS so small and it's need a god sen to let me get out of the house and him to relax.
Cocoonababy - expensive but works for us.
Hot water bottle - warm up sleeping surface and covers before putting him down, not leaving bottle in bed!
Soft music - I was ready to print Ewan out the window but soft music is fine and I think reassures LO he's not alone.
DP in spare room. I need him refreshed when I'm not!
Oh, and when all else fails we co-sleep because to me the benefits outweigh the risks. I fretted about it for ages before submitting, and what a difference it makes. We don't sleep like that all the time but when I'm falling asleep then side feeding and co-sleeping is a joy.
Good luck OP

Typos cause replying whilst nursing :-)