Anyone tried this?

[Jellybaby75]

My DS is 11 months and he’s going to nursery soon. He feeds to sleep for naps and worried he won’t be able to nap at nursery.

Don’t want to just leave him and let him. I plan to stay next to his big and repeatedly lie him down until he falls asleep. I know there will be tears but at lease I’ll still be there.

Anyone tried this and did it work? How long did it take for them to fall asleep?

Let him cry *
Next to his cot *

Didn’t work for DD1. Can you walk with pushchair to get him to sleep, then leave pushchair in porch/Hall? We did this and after a while she just slept after being put in pushchair without going anywhere. And Nursery had pushchairs so she’d just go in one in the corner for her naps. And eventually at 2.5 asked to go in cot so her gazillion teddies wouldn’t fall out. So we got there!

It worked for me! I feed her but if she's dropping off I whip her off the boob and put her in the cot and just sat next to her. First time she cried for 15 mins. Now she'll cry/grizzle for 1-10 mins depending on her mood. Once I'd cracked one nap like that it was like she'd learnt to fall asleep lying on her own, then she'll nap like that in the afternoon even without a feed first (nursery was my motivation too).

15 minutes isn’t too bad! Did you literally just sit there or try and settle her by patting, singling etc. ?

If you search "what worked for us" on the Mumsnet search bar, there is a great thread all about the gradual retreat method. It sounds like this is what you are describing but the thread has loads more detail, although the main focus is on babies self settling at night time.

I am planning on trying it with DS who is currently 9 months, when I can work up the motivation due to sleep deprivation that is. We currently feed to sleep for naps and about 5-10 times a night so I would LOVE to know how it goes for you OP. Good luck!

Thank you, I have actually seen that thread before but forgot about it! I think I need to pluck up the courage to go through with it and I’ll follow that thread quite closely actually! I’ll tackle night wakings later (I’m not sure whether he still needs the feeds as he doesn’t each much solids).

Jelly baby - sometimes I put my hand in the cot and she holds my hand, sometimes she holds a soft toy but if she's crying I just read rhymes to her (stick man, highway rat, room on a broom) I think this helps me more than her as one read through of any of those is usually the time it takes her to settle.

I worried about my little girl napping at nursery because she had always gone to sleep on me but she has just followed the other children. She still doesn't nap for long but will sleep on one of their mats.

You really don’t need to sleep train just to get them to sleep at nursery, they work it out on their own as PP said. It’s the peer pressure from the other babies!

I need to stop the breastfeeds that will coincide with me being back at work for my own comfort. I also want to stop breastfeeding.

So me stopping those feeds will mean I have to stop feeding to sleep for his naps. Just wondering about the best way to do it.

@GlennRheeismyfavourite when crying did your lo sort of whimper and fuss or was it full on screaming crying. I have heard people having success with such methods but I'm just worried that my ds will full on scream and not stop