6 or 7 wake ups through night - then up at 5am. Desperate! Help!

[Patienceisvirtuous]

Hello,

Am so dog tired, I don’t even know whether I can bloody articulate myself to ask for help.

Any tips/advice much appreciated.

DS is 10.5 months. Full of energy, lively, inquisitive. Has a couple of naps throughout day - usually totals about 1.5 hours. He has them 3 hours after morning wake-up then another one early afternoon.

He goes to bed around 7pm after a bath. Falls asleep with a bottle then we make him a bed up on the sofa which he sleeps on ‘til we go to bed (we watch telly at v low volume with subtitles).

He comes up with us and co-sleeps with us. Wakes at least every hour - usually with wind. Sometimes resettles easily with a some water and a tummy rub - sometimes takes longer (up to an hour). Then he wakes up for the day between 5-530.

DH and I are shattered. Am aware our routine isn’t great - we fell into it after many failed attempts to get him to settle in his own room/cot.

Maybe he's being disturbed by cosleeping? Some children respond well to going into their own room. My niece is 8 months old and she started sleeping badly (cosleeping) and as soon as she was put in her own cot and room she was much better. I also think you need to put him to bed rather than making a bed up on the sofa as that sleep is not likely to be as restful as it could be and he might be waking up as he's overtired...

I do 2nd what PP said. We noticed a real difference in quality of sleep for us and our DS once we moved him into his own room.

I fully understand that some babies are much better co-sleeping but if it isn't working for you then I guess you might have to try again at getting him to sleep in a cot?

You could always work on day time naps first of all with trying to get him into a cot? He doesn't have to self-settle at first but maybe just see if he will sleep in the cot once he is already dosing off?

Also perhaps establish a bed time routine? If he sleeps on the sofa okay then make up a similar bed for him in his cot?

Our DS wakes 5.00/5.30, I keep thinking at least when clocks go forward at the weekend it will be 6.00/6.30

Also with the wind have you tried the Colief stuff? And perhaps go easy on feeding him anything that might cause wind at dinner?

Months 8-10/11 were rough for us due to regression and learning so many things. After that it settled dramatically and my 14 month old wakes once in the night at the moment.

Why do you make him a bed on the sofa until you go to bed? What an utterly bizarre thing to do.
Second what pps have said - put him in his own cot in his own room at a sensible time and see what happens.
In what way do you imagine the routine you have now encourages sleep??