11 month old suddenly not sleeping! Help

[Awest1601]

Hi, so my 11mo has started just screaming at bedtime. Even if you’re in ther with her. My husband is in there now and I can hear her crying. I couldn’t take it. She has never slept through, but I could handle it. She would have a milk and go to sleep really easily at about 7 then wake between 1 and 2am for a bottle and be asleep within a couple of minutes so I didn’t mind getting up. Last week she slept through til 6 every morning. But this week she won’t even let you put her down. I’m so tired, I work part time and I hate having to ask my husband as he works full time. Her cries really affect me, I get angry and distraught with myself and feel like I’m doing something wrong and I’m not a good enough mum. Her top two teeth are coming through, I don’t know if that is part of the problem. I don’t really have an issue with co sleeping as it means we all get sleep. But I’m just worried about what this does in the long run. Will it make her really clingy? Will we ever get our bed back? Will she grow out of it. Sorry this is so long but I needed to get my feelings out. Thanks so much xxx

If she’s teething could it just be that she’s in pain? And therefore wants comfort?
I’d try baby nurofen and teething gel.
But if it’s not that then it could just be a little regression. I think just sticking to your routine is the only way, and hope it passes.
Sending strength.

Thank you, I keep rubbing bonjela on her teeth. I don’t want to give her too much medicine as I don’t want her to rely on it, but I do give it to her occasionally. She has started walking too, I just read that hitting milestones can make them a bit confused and out of sorts. Hopefully it will pass.

She won’t get addicted to calpol or nurofen. Sounds like she could be suffering with teething pain, I would definitely, definately, definitely give some pain relief. If it helps, great, you know what’s causing it and you’ve eased her pain. If it doesn’t make a difference, you know it’s probably not pain related. There really is no reason not to give pain relief if there is a chance she might be in pain.

I agree that when they achieve some big physical thing like walking they don’t sleep as well for a bit. Happened when my son started crawling. But I do think often babies just need you to keep being consistent, as it makes them feel safe.

I don’t think there is a problem with relying on pain killers when in pain. Give her some nurofen and anbesol oil.

Teething pain is worse when laying down. The poor thing is probably screaming in pain.

Could be teething and/or separation anxiety. Have you tried cuddling/rocking to sleep rather than just putting her down? Sounds like she needs more help to get to sleep.

Hi OP!

Snap! 11mo slept really well and now is completely shit. I cried for about 3 hours straight last night because I just couldn't take the screaming anymore. He cries when he goes down, eventually drops off but won't stay asleep for more than a couple of hours. He doesn't settle when picked up or cuddled or put in with us, nothing. The only way to get him to stop is walk around the house or take him downstairs. I did think it was teeth with him as he has loooaads.. but the crying stops immediately when he's brought out of his room. I've tried staying upstairs but he just eventually starts again and I'm aware of DD being asleep in the neighbouring bedroom.

It's shit. I really hope it stops for you soon. I find gin helps xx

I am feeling your pain! My 10m baby has always been a decent sleeper although not regularly sleeping through but lately (sporadically) he is a nightmare to settle! Screaming and thrashing about! I think he is over tired. It takes a lot of singing / milk to really settle him!

I have decided to go right back to basics and map out his day - particularly naps because sometimes I am having to wake him from naps which isn't helping. I am going to introduce some additional steps at bedtime to relax him (massage / story / keywords) which haven't been needed so much previously as he was always falling asleep

Hope it passes for you x

Thank you so much for your messages, the last couple of nights have not been so bad, hopefully she’ll start to settle down again. It’s just nice to know I’m not the only one (even though it seems I’ve been leaving her to scream in pain 😳). Sending strength and energy for everyone xx