17month old sleep issues

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I have a 17month old boy who's being a monkey going to bed and waking up early! Has a good bedtime routine, bath, stories then bed! Currently having to stay in his room until he is asleep, so we sit by his door quietly, if you try and leave he screams. Recently has been taking 45mins and sometimes more before he falls asleep. Messes around in his cot throwing his dummies, banging his head or going from one end of the cot to the other until he finally gives in! He then will mostly sleep solidly until 4.45 and then he screams, we go in and sit in his room, will sometimes go back to sleep until 5.15, or will just start messing around again. We get him out of his cot at 6 but have to stay in his room until then. He then is a grumpy bum because he is still tired, yawning and rubbing his eyes! Any advice would be very much appreciated, all I can think off is to leave him (which I'm not overly keen on) but he's just making us stay in his room to mess around!

I would stand by husband cot, not by the door.

Have a mantra you repeat, something that encompasses what behaviour you expect. For example "Sleep time now. We lie down quietly to sleep. Nan night".

Any time he shuffles, makes a noise, does anything other than lie down quietly, tap the mattress where he should lie and say mantra. Place your hand on just back/shoulder/chest until settled and once settled remove you handout stay standing close. Repeat a million times as many times as needed.

Do the same at the beginning of bedtime. After pj's, story etc, put know cot standing up, tap mattress and say mantra. Toddler should be lying self down to settle to sleep.

Once lying quietly, don't interact but stay where you are until asleep. Over time start stepping away from the bed when settled, returning for the mantra and hand on chest thing when unsettled, but withdrawing again when calm.