When did you move you dc to their own room?

[beckieperk]

Hi all. I know the recommended age is 6months, but has anyone moved their dc earlier?
Ds2 is 11.5 weeks old and he's pretty big. He's outgrown his moses basket and its getting that way for his crib. The crib is beside me in my bedroom. Last night he woke himself several times banging against the side and at 2am got his leg caught in the bars and screamed, nearly scared me half to death!! (he's very wriggly and big like I say). We are putting him in a sleeping bag tonight. The cot will not fit in our room at all. His room is very close to ours.
Also he is very grunty when he sleeps which is very loud and disturbs me and dh.
Any advice or experiences welcome. Thanks.

6 months and then 2 1/2 (when we did up the spare room).
DD will be in with us until at least 6 months.

OP, it might be useful for those who follow the 6 months rule to the dot, to provide you with the strong evidence backing this.

Clue- there is none. It is an arbitrary amount of time. Nobody knows when it is safe to move baby into their own room.

So for people to believe that baby would be unsafe in own room until 6 months-1 day, and then be safe from 6 months birthday is suddenly ok makes me

Well, SIDS cases have dramatically reduced since the guidelines were brought in so that in itself is a fairly compelling reason to follow them.

We can’t statistically prove that looking before you cross the road guarantees you are less likely to be hit by a car either, but you wouldn’t dismiss people looking....

From the Lullaby Trust guidelines: A large study combining case- control studies from 20 regions across Europe showed the risks of SIDS in multivariate ORs of 0.48 (95% CI 0.34-0.69) and 0.32 (95% CI 0.19-0.55) when a room was usually shared.

@ImMrsBrightside I wouldn't wish PND on anyone but trust me when I say that if you'd experienced it you wouldn't be so judgemental and unkind. For some mums avoiding sleep deprivation as far as possible is literally a matter of life and death.

How do you know I haven't had PND?

And it potentially could have been a matter of death. That's why the guidelines are there.

DC1 I think was about four months. DC2 just under a year old.

Erm...around 2.5/3 years really...
Youngest (4th child) was 4... what can I say? I love having my children near me and get a better sleep being near them.

The SIDS guidelines say no younger than 6 months and I highly doubt that many double bedrooms seriously cannot actually fit a cot in them as well as a bed- I’m assuming people just prioritise their other bedroom furniture 🙄

5 months as she was too long for the Moses basket

Isadora my other bedroom furniture is fitted.....so I can't move it to accommodate a cot.

We also did not have the option of prioritising furniture . Our bedroom compromised of a double bed, a tiny bedside table (that’s singular, not plural), a fitted wardrobe and enough room to shimmy round the bed, even before DD arrived. A sidebar cot wasn’t even an option because the only side it would have fitted was over a radiator. We originally had DD in a Moses basket at the foot of the bed, even though this meant we a) couldn’t open the wardrobe without moving the basket and b) we had to climb over the bed rather than walk round. DD’s room was a single so no room for an extra bed in their either as the cot took up most of it. It’s a rather old and very tiny house in an expensive area so moving for more space wasn’t an option especially as an international move was on the cards (we’ve now moved but DD is now 9 months so is more than fine in her own room).

Plenty of people move their children before 6 months, others wouldn’t dream of it, it’s a very personal thing. Many parents also co-sleep or use sleepyhead type things even though those aren’t recommended either. OP, you need to make your decision here and it ultimately comes down to what you’re comfortable with.

We've just moved the cot into her room, at 18 months she still spends the latter half of the night in our bed. That's what works for us though, I wouldn't preach it to anyone else!

I wouldn't have done it before 6 months, too paranoid about SIDS as I'm the cohort where babies who would my age now died in larger numbers which has been changed by modern guidelines. Obviously everyone assesses their own risks and this reduction isn't only due to the six month rule (also back to sleep, feet to foot, and more awareness around smoke will have helped massively too).

We fitted a full sized cot in our room, but I know that this isn't an option for everyone. If you did want to stick to six months could you sleep in a single in his room with the cot?

If cot won’t fit - maybe consider co sleeping for a while?

Or a fold out mattress on the floor of baby’s room if you are worried.

We moved our DD at 9 months - tbh even then I wasn’t comfortable with it but at 20 months she now sleeps in her own toddler bed throughout the night.

I co-sleep still at 16 months. It's what works best for you. Our little boy refuses to sleep in his cot in our bedroom so we went with the path of least resistance so everyone gets some sleep. We've a big move abroad coming up so there won't be any changes for a while yet