9 Mth old suddenly screaming.

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HELP ME.
DD2 used to settle quite nicely. I pop my head in every few mins so she knows I'm still there. Bit of whinging, occasional bit of crying, settled fairly quick. 10 mins ish.

NOW...........She screams her head off in absolute outrage when I lower her into her cot. And I don't know why. She's tired, rubbing eyes, yawning, but it takes at least 20 mins now of horrible screaming. I tried staying in with her to see if it was me leaving, but she screams more if I stay. So went back to popping in every few mins, and she settles better but is still screaming for ages.

WHAT DO I DO????

I welcome any advice, even criticism, but don't really want it to turn into a CC is cruel debate

My 9 month old is exactly the same. His cot cry has definitely changed and he sounds so angry and high pitched. I think they just become more aware. I'm not sure what to do either. I haven't done cc but as soon as his present cold goes I think I'll try it. Sorry can't be more helpful.

I thought it might be the 9 mth clingy, seperation thing. She is outraged and goes bright red. If it wasn't so horrible it'd be funny

Hope fully someone will come along who knows. Don't remember dd1 doing this at all. Mind you dd2 is still bf. No idea if that makes a difference. She has also suddenly become rather angry when I take her off the boob even tho she's almost asleep and not sucking any more. I will not be a human dummy!!!!!

My DD did the same, still does sometimes, shes 12months now. Tried to stay with her but same as your DD - screams even more. So I just hold her and sing to her, so she calms down (sometimes falls asleep less than a minute!), maybe I shouldn't do that but for me it feels nice and calming and she loves it too. But like I said, she doesn't scream everytime I put her to sleep, mostly naptimes, I think it's because she just would prefer to play and run around even she's really tired.
Sorry, not much help but hope somebody will come soon with good advise

Actually DD1 came in and she was all smiles. Perhaps it is just cos she doesn't want to miss anything. In th end I fed her and cuddled. Then put her in. Still took her ages, but not screaming. I hate to always cuddle to sleep tho, I imagine myself cuddling a 10 yo to sleep

Aaaaaaargh

Is it something to do with seperation anxiety that is supposed to kick in around this point? My ds (11 months) was going down and sleeping through really well but has become a lot more difficult to settle recently. He's also started having night terrors where he sits bolt upright and screams. Perhaps your lo has an active imagination and is getting anxious about sleeping. Is her room dark? Perhaps she's like a night light?

No isn't dark, esp at nap time which is when she kicks off more. I think it does set in around 9 mths then again at about 18 mths.
In the last couple months she's cried at people she doesn't know well. But seems to be getting over that now, and has started the screaming. She is VERY nosy tho. So perhaps thinks she's missing something. Or just ermembers that I will leave. I don't know???????

Funny little things aren't they.

I just find it wierd that she settles easier when I don't sit in. She seems to take it more personally when I'm right there and still not picking her up.
My cardinal rule was always NEVER pick them back up. But dd1 never did it.

dd did this at about ten months and the blessed mrsapron advised checking i wasn't feeding her solids too close to bedtime so she was filling up on them rather than milk? moved teatime back to 4pm and hey bingo, dd was milky-tired by bedtime... hth.

I had a lie in this am, but DH did say she ate loads of porridge. Maybe that's it. She's so tired about 1-2 hrs after she gets up, hmmmm.

And she does settle better at night.

It's awful lying down with full tummy too.
Will try it. Early bfast and dinner.

Thanks Aitch. What is hth???

hope this helps. it's a bit wanky, isn't it? lol. good luck.

maybe she's not as tired now at bedtime as she was a few weeks ago? Is her last nap of the day too close to bedtime? maybe put her down later or move her last nap of the day so she wakes earlier? My dd is nearly 10 months and she can definitely do a 4 hour stretch at the end of the day where a few weeks ago it was a lot less.

Well, sometimes she doesn't have a pm nap. And wierdly she actually settles better at night if she has. I think it may bemore that she is too tired.
I always make sure she is up by 4pm. In bed by 6:30 ish.

It's so tricky before they can talk.

I make sure she has the am nap, unless it's playgroup day then she goes in at noon.
She wont sleep out and about unless exhausted, as too nosy. GTG now. Keep helping while I'm gone. It's all worth hearing about

My LO just did this for a few days, he's 9 months.
I knew he was tired so kept trying to put him down. I can't bear to leave him to cry so I got him up, took him out of the room and calmed him down and tried again half an hour later later and he went off as usual.
Fingers crossed the last couple of days he has gone down no problem.
I have no idea what it was all about

Hmm, perhaps it's just something they do they do around that age then.