How do you get them to sleep?!

[Rorymum]

Hi all,
I am losing the will to live. I have a 6 month old who I cannot get to sleep without a car/pram. Every single nap / bedtime in the house is preceded by wailing and squirming. She won't be held or go in her cot. I've tried the pram indoors, a dummy, swaddling, leaving her to cry and then cuddling, a sling, mobiles and a dark room and all of that and she cannot fall asleep. My entire day and night is dictated by it and my poor 4 year old hasn't had her mum without a screaming baby attached for what feels like a life time. She was up until 9:30 last night just upset. I've phoned the children's centre - nobody called back. Family just say "oh all of ours slept". What are you actually supposed to do if you can't go out with the pram every hour and a half?

Thank you, a rubbish mum

You’re not a rubbish mum.

Do you have a routine (and by that I don’t mean schedule I just mean a pattern of things that happen in the same order).

From around 6 months we had dinner, floor time, in the night garden bath, dark room with white noise, feed to sleep. It took a while for it to work and I only followed her lead) sometimes she’d be tired at 7, sometimes she’d be tired at 9.30). It’s hard work when you don’t have a baby who just naturally loves sleep so I feel for you OP but it’ll get esker x

Or easier*!

Thank you! Yes we have a routine much the same but the feeding to sleep has stopped working. Today I took her out in the pram and she just wanted to be held and cried constantly. I felt dreadful about it but tried just to leave her and see what would happen, but she just wanted to be held. I'd hold her forever but my eldest daughter needs me too. I think I might just go back to the sling.

We still rock him to sleep or sometimes I will lie down with him and transfer him after he is asleep yes I know it's not ideal