4mo doesn't nap, wakes every 1hr from 1am...help!!

[Mum2be2017]

I have coslept with my baby since they were around 10 weeks old. Purely as they would wake every single time I'd put them down in the crib. It was totally exhausting and as a result it was I guess easier to cosleep AND it felt great!!

However, baby hates napping unless breast fed to sleep (then wakes if I transfer to crib), and will only nap if going out in the pram or car. Again these are minimal 45 min max over the past 1m.

At night he will sleep from 8-1.30ish (BF to sleep, then transferred to spot where I was sitting on sofa - as won't go down in crib, not even with hot water bottle to warm it up - then I dream feed at 11, try again in pre warmed crib and only time will go down. BUT then he wakes every 1-2 hrs and never goes down in crib. Just screams immediately and no amount of shushing, patting or Ewan the sodding dream sheep will fix!!!

So...ends up in our bed where he does sleep but wriggles, kicks me and is constantly on my boobs which are now ripped to shreds! And I don't sleep a wink.

I'm ratty and sick of hearing other new mums whose babies sleep through the night!! Helpful suggestions welcome!!!

4 month regression has hit. Rest when you can and ride it out, it’ll pass! My cosleeping (side down cot) 13 month old now wakes once a night for a feed.

The only advice I can give, and you’ll hate it, is it will pass! Dd was exactly like this - from newborn to 11 months she DID NOT SLEEP. I was completely insane by the end of it. I used to have to rock her for up to two hours in her pram and then feed to sleep just to get her to go to bed! In the end I just put her in her cot one night and she just went to sleep 😂😂 They will learn to sleep, I promise! It is just hideous whilst you’re going through it. Don’t worry about feeding to sleep/co-sleeping - do whatever it asks to get some rest. He will eventually learn to settle himself, it will take some time though.

Thanks ladies. I think sometimes I try to force things and get irritated when they don't work. We will get through it, positive mental attitude!!

Supporting the 4 month regression here - also going through same. My eyes and head hurt! Trying to feed her back to sleep in the night but she just looks up at me with wide eyes as if to say ‘no, we only did this an hour ago remember? I’m not hungry’

I would do what works and ignore what doesn't work at this stage. So yes to boob and cosleeping; no to the crib, shh pat, Ewan etc. It's not worth the stress and they're actually making things harder for you than solving anything.

Also cosleep for naps in the day when you're home. Try to get at least one in at home so you can rest! 45 min naps are fine so long as they're frequent throughout the day. So after 90mins awake time, try for a nap so he's asleep by 2 hours after previous wake up:

Hi I totally feel your pain I remember the 4 month sleep regression well! My son is now 9 months and sleeps a lot better (still ends up in my bed most nights but I dont mind that). As everyone has said it does pass, everything is a phase haha doesn't help while you are in it though I know.