Babies nursery is downstairs

[blueberry71]

This is a strange one but I would like some advice. We have a Victorian terrace house so our bedroom is on the third floor. The second bedroom (which is now the babies nursery) is downstairs on the second floor. I didn't realise it before having her that being upstairs away from her would feel too far away. This has led to her bed sharing with us for the first year (she's turning one next week). I'm now getting to the point where I'm ready for her to be in her own cot in her nursery but I just feel her being downstairs in not close enough for me to feel comfortable. Because of the bed sharing she's been going to bed with us about 9pm. This also means the other half and I have no time alone which is starting to affect our relationship as well. Please can anyone give me some advice. Starting to feel like we're getting into a rut. Thanks

No advice sorry but ds will be on the floor above us (very strange house layout) when he moves into own room. I’m nervous but will obviously have baby monitors so I’m hoping eventually I’ll get used to it!

I don't see a huge problem if you have a baby monitor. Could you swap rooms? Probably easier said than done if all decorated etc

Is her room safe and secure? I assume it is and she cant climb on window sils. As secure as any other baby's room really.

Can she climb out of cot. Baby sleep bags help prevent this somewhat.

Do you have a baby monitor? What do you do for naps? I have a video monitor which I love as I can see what she's up to when she's not sleeping, and can hear her snoring breathing when she is. I wouldn't worry about mine sleeping on another floor (she does each nap time anyway) but I'd bring the monitor to bed with me so I could hear/see to check on her.

At one year old the bedroom layout will be fine. Get a baby monotir, a video one if it makes you feel better. We had DD sort of on a separate floor (Victorian house with half stairs splitting the top floor) from 6 months. I would have thought your biggest issue will be getting her out of your bed and into her cot, good luck!

Thanks everyone. I do have a video monitor but when we first tried to get her in her bedroom the monitor kept me awake as any tiny noise would wake me up. I will try it again though. She's very clever and tries to climb up everything which is another worry of mine (although I would say our cot is very secure and she does sleep in a sleeping bag). I am also nervous about moving her from our bed to her cot as last time we tried I didn't sleep for nearly a week. We do have a super king bed and she sleeps in her sleepyhead besides me so it's almost like we co sleep rather than bed share tbf. All in all I think it's going to be a bigger adjustment for me rather than her. I don't know why but it really scares me to do it. And I'm guessing it's because it's the closeness I won't be used to. Also doesn't help with her being downstairs!

Could you sleep in her room on an air mattress or something for the first couple of nights to ease the transition and help put your mind at rest?

Yeah I think I will do that. Will definitely make it easier for me and her. X