4 month sleep regression - positive stories!

[Blueberrycheesecake1]

Am worrying in advance about the 4 month sleep regression even though baby is barely 2 months old... would welcome any stories of it not being too bad / not happening / resolving itself quickly!!

My son and my twins didn't have any sleep regressions.

Son was never a fantastic sleeper but twins are 6m and have been sleeping through for at least 3m.

Thanks. Anything you think you might have done which helped that...?

No sleep regression here either.

The word regression is a bit misleading, what actually happens around the 4 month mark is that baby’s sleep cycles change and become more adult. So they don’t fall asleep deeply straightaway anymore so coupled with the fact that their sleep cycles are about 45 minutes long. So some babies will fall asleep fine in your arms/whilst feeding but will wake when put down as they’re only in light sleep. If they have a dummy/suck their thumb this can help them settle but it really varies, some babies are really affected and their sleep appears to goes backwards, others there’s no regression at all.

Thanks. I'm terrified of less sleep (and we're doing OK now compared to some! ). So I guess the whole "put them down drowsy but awake" thing (which I find impossible) might help pre-empt that...

I am feeling the same as you, and my baby is 3 months.
I have been trying shhh/pat- from the baby whisperer books( well, just started today actually!) and whilst my baby doesn’t hate it, it doesn’t seem to be making her settle either.

What seems to happen when I try to do ‘drowsy but awake’ is that she is drowsy in my arms and then when I go to stand up to move her, she becomes properly awake, so I’ve never been able to lay her down drowsy. I have been breast feeding to sleep, and would like to have some other self settling strategies in place for when her sleep potentially will get worse!
Sorry I can’t be of any help, other than to let you know you aren’t alone.

Hope you don't get hit @3month

My little one is now 6 months. I won't lie and say there wasn't a change in his sleep but definitely not as bad as the horror stories. Some days he slept through as normal, others he would wake maybe once for an extra feed but it was easily manageable (especially in comparison with the newborn stage). There have only been a handful of nights that he was up at all hours. I wouldn't stress too much, you'll be fine !

Thanks! Such an emotional roller coaster isn't it...

It’s tough but it’s not that bad! I remember thinking it was awful and now 9 months later it’s a distant memory. Don’t pre-worry about something that might not even be that bad!