No longer sleeping in cot

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Hi all the last couple of days/nights my 10 month old son is refusing to sleep in his cot, he either screams or sits up crying. Has anyone else had this? He will only go to sleep on me at the moment which isn't helpful when I'm at work during the week. Is this just a phase? Is there anything I can do?

Peak time for separation anxiety and the 8-10 month regression. I would say ride it out and embrace cosleeping for now.

My DS doesn’t sleep through- mostly still wakes once between 4-5am but from about 4 months was a champion at going in his cot awake and babbling/playing to sleep with his white noise in the back ground. He did his for naps and bed time and after night wakes. For the past 2 weeks he all of a sudden cries whenever he’s being placed in his cot. It’s really upsetting.

As pp said it’s prime time for separation anxiety. DS is 9 months and I’ve found during the day he gets upset if I leave the room and he’s now trying to climb up my legs and climb on me knee if I’m on the floor. Sometimes he only cries for a few mins, in which case I leave him to it as he does this when he’s going to sleep in his pram when we are out- sometimes he just cries before finally nodding of. Any more than that and we go in and soothe. That has meant me or DP going in and rocking/cuddling until totally asleep and then transferring. I’d just let him sleep with us but he just won’t- it doesn’t work at all, he just won’t sleep in bed with us and thinks it’s playtime. I wish it worked because I’d love the cuddles. I agree that you just need to wait it out, it’s what we plan to do. If it’s extra comfort they are after just give it. It’s a phase and it will pass, just try and get as much rest as you can in the mean time

Thank you both. He has always been such a great sleeper from 6-8 weeks so I'm hoping this is just a phase. He didn't nap this morning so only had 20 mins of crying in his cot before he gave in this afternoon. It's so hard leaving him to cry but he will get reliant on us going in if we do it every time

How’s his night sleep?

He cried for 20 minutes in his cot before you intervened?

There’s no way you can spoil a baby by seeing to their needs (and comfort is a need - crying always means there is a need). He will become independent in his own time, he eithrr wasn’t tired if he cried for 20 mins or needed some parental input. I appreciate how hard it is but being there for him now doesn’t mean he’ll need it forever.