Advice on getting 2.8 month sleeping in own bed!

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So expecting dc2 in July DD 2.8 sleeps in our bed from first wake up (always has done), she doesn't simply sleep all night once she gets in with us she still wakes - really not sure why sometimes bad dreams etc.
Last night was the first night in her 'big girls bed' made it all cosy for her & explained everything etc. After the first wake up she woke up for 2 hours she would just chat & sing she would NOT settle unless we got in her bed with her which then ended up me sleeping in their all night (we couldn't just leave her & tuck her in as she would just scream & cry).
As you can imagine we really need to crack this before dc2 arrives as we can't have DD not sleeping in her bed. Today I am tired as I didn't sleep until 1am then I was getting up for a pee every 2 hours.

So can anyone help or give any advice as we really need to sort this? I am aware this was the first night but I just can't see any light at the end of the tunnel.
Thanks

Sorry I have posted in 'parenting' as well but then thought posting here was probably better.

Hi!
Sorry to hear you have this problem. Not easy when expecting new baby soon!
My son was nearly same age as your daughter when he was moved to toddler bed (he was 2.6). The only difference was that he was already sleeping in a separate bed, in his cot (next to me). So he had idea of sleeping in a separate bed. Is your LO's toddler bed in another room or in the bedroom with you?
Maybe try to leave her big girls bed in the bedroom with you for the first couple of nights just so she gets used to sleeping in new bed but she will be still next to you. And once she is comfortable there and happy to sleep all night then try to move her to the new room.
I was also stressing about moving my son to his big boys bed AND new room on top of that before new baby arrived! It turned out that the new baby refused the cot bed completely! and only wanted to sleep with me (as I was breastfeeding from day 1) and then we realised we didn't really have to worry so much about moving our son from his cot :-)
But it all turned out well at the end.
He settled easily in his new bed and new room, no issues.

Thanks for replying, I'm glad everything turned out well for you in the end.

Unfortunately there is just no room in our bedroom for the bed & we didn't bother putting her in a toddler bed, we've skipped straight to a single bed. So we didn't have to then transition her from a toddler bed to single bed later in the year.

I would ‘bed in’ with her for a couple of weeks, get yourself another mattress or something you can sleep on, until she is settled in there.

Yeah, you're not going to be able to make that transition in one fell swoop. Get her used to the room first, then maybe DH on an air mattress on her floor, then sleeping alone. There will be a bit of crying, she won't like it, but she'll get used to it. We did gradual retreat - getting in bed with him initially, then on a chair holding his hand, then moving the chair away - for bedtime and night wakings. There were tears at times and it wasn't fast but we never left him to cry and i don't think anyone was traumatised.

I would cosleep with her in her bed for now - either you or your DH. It's not realistic to go from cosleeping with you in your room to sleeping on her own in her room.

So I would put her to bed as normal, go in at the first wake up, with no fuss/chat/trying to get her back to sleep. Just accept it and get in in the hope that the less everybody is disturbed, the more sleep you all get. Escape if you can, otherwise get sleep if you can! Then, after a couple of weeks, gradually wean her off you getting into bed: lie next to her -> sit next to her holding her hand -> sit next to her etc in however small steps she needs.

Obviously my best suggestion would be that your DH is the one to follow this plan and you get the sleep/toilet access that you need!