Self Soothing

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When did your little one's start self soothing, my baby is nearly 7 months and is either fed to sleep by me or rocked by DH. I find that any change to that is an issue, if put down, after 30mins will wake lest there is lots of shushing and patting. Fed to sleep I am finding DC will wake up if I don't unlatch before sleep sets in. It's worse now because of weaning, we've stopped a formula top up as there is not a lot of breastfeeding during the day and in order to continue and to retain my supply it seemed best. I'd find the top up would amp little one up for hours but the eventual sleep lasted longer. This is no big gaps of being awake in the middle of the night but is resulting in frequently waking.

When should I try self soothing? Little one seems distressed from just being in the crib from the beginning.

You will get loads of different answers to this, but self settling is developmental and the kindest thing to do is to let them get there in their own time, it could be next month or next year but it will happen naturally

When did your little one's start self soothing

Would you consider a dummy self-soothing? (ie put awake baby into cot with dummy and they go to sleep alone, without any further assistance)

I'm which case, about 10 days old or so for two if my children.

I would call that independant soothing (going to sleep with assiatance that aids independant sleeping. As opposed to dependant soothing - whereby soothing is dependent on an adult) rather than self soothing (going from awake to asleep with no assistance)

Going to sleep with no comforting mechanism at all (what I'd call self soothing), I'd say about 3-5 years old. Until then, DUMMY IS KING

If your baby has a daily routine (ie sleeps at similar times each day) you could try putting her down in her cot for her day naps when you know she’s tired and pottering about upstairs while she self settles. She might not do it straight away. If you do want to do this, it might be worth trying before she gets to the age where she can pull up to standing using the cot bars, because in my experience this is quite detrimental to self settling!

My third Ds has self settled really well from a very young age, as I banned anyone from rocking or feeding him to sleep; this was as a direct result of ds2 needing rocked, vigorously and constantly, for several hours each night.

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