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Will ds EVER sleep through?! I am almost a zombie with lack of sleep

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ratfly · 01/05/2007 14:37

So, as some of you already know, ds is a bad sleeper.

His naps require me to stay near to him so when he wakes up at intervals from 20 - 40 minutes, I can help him get back to sleep again (for another 20 - 40 mins) so he gets some daytime rest.

At night, he is up every 2 hours from 11pm, 1am, 3am, 5am then up for the day at 6.30!!!!

He is 15 weeks old. I have tried sooo many things - shh pat works sometimes, as does pu/pd. Alas, bouncing in his chair is the easiest way to get him off, hence my bouncing him from 5 - 6.30 last night....

I am soooooo tired.

Please someone tell me he WILL sleep through eventually.. ?

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Upsadaisygoonpunkmakemyday · 01/05/2007 14:40

He will sleep through the night....it takes time and each baby is different so try not to compare your babies sleeping habits with anyone elses (easier said than done)....it will happen and probably without warning you'll wake up one morning and bloomin eck he didn't wake is he ok.

kittypants · 01/05/2007 14:43

hes only 15 weeks old,eventually yes he'll sleep but could be any time!my ds is bad sleeper(was great till 8 months )and up every hour in night.

Porcupine · 01/05/2007 14:43

no
this reminds me of my ds

Porcupine · 01/05/2007 14:44

this was me 4 years ago

Heathcliffscathy · 01/05/2007 14:45

oh you poor poor thing.....he is still very little, but i realise that 15 weeks is an eternity and no sleep is literally used as torture by oppressive regimes....it drives you insane i know.

He DEFINITELY will sleep through. Soonish, I would imagine.

Is he feeding when he wakes in the night?

When he is a bit older there are things you can do to help you all get some sleep, but right now he is still very little....you could perhaps, see if he can settle himself during his daytime naps, perhaps go and shush him once and then leave for 5 minutes? you might be surprised, he might go back to sleep.

hang in there, it will get better it really will.

Lazycow · 01/05/2007 14:49

oh this is so much like ds was.

Eventually he started to sleep longer in the day time as I started at 6 months old to insist on proper naps (there was some crying involved so you may not want to do that). With ds though there was no 'helping him get back to sleep' Nothing (including breastfeeding worked) so some crying was inevitable.

Once he slept better in the day his nights did improve (only 1 or 2 short wakeups).

I have to say though he didn't really consistently sleep all night until he was about 18 months old. At the moment (he is 2.5yrs old) we are on a good phase but a month or so ago he was sleeping badly again (though never as bad as those awful early days)

It really does get better.

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ratfly · 01/05/2007 14:54

I must be bionic by now - I am surviving on so little sleep. from time to time I throw a complete wobbler - so much so that mum and dad are taking it in turns to come over and support me. bless them.

Last night I tried these things to settle him (waiting after each to see if he will settle, which he didnt EVER!!!!) (btw I kept a log...)
He woke at 3.30 ish

shh-pat
shh-pat again
ok I'll blooming well feed you (drops off after 8 mins then wakes again)
change nappy (it was clean)
re swaddle
rocking the crib
ignoring
maybe his eczema is itching - cream all his eczema
maybe he is teething - try bonjela

10. ignore a bit longer 11. ok I will put you in your bl**dy bouncy chair (5.30) 12. contiuously bounce the chair all night until he wakes up at 6.30 ready for the day

oh, and lots of trying to cuddle to sleep in between...

aaarrrgrggghhhhhhhghh!!!!!

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NineUnlikelyTales · 01/05/2007 14:55

15 weeks! I don't mean to be patronising, but that is extremely early. I know it's knackering but it's perfectly normal I'm afraid. My DS is 8 months and the night you have described is still like him sometimes

He will sleep through eventually but you might be better off not fixating on it for now but just accepting what comes. Try and get him to sleep for longer by all means, but get used to the idea that it isn't going to happen any time soon. Then work your life around it - if you don't have other children, could you nap at least once a day with your DS so that you can both get some rest.

Porcupine · 01/05/2007 14:56

babie s are farkign annoying eh?

Lazycow · 01/05/2007 14:56

One other thing even when he was sleeping badly at night - once we had sorted his day sleep - I dound that ds was a very good day napper (from about 8/9 months old)

He has ALWAYS woken early though.

Only recently (in the last couple of weeks) has he slept later than 6/6.30am and generally he is is up by 6am or earlier usually. It is slowly improving though.

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ratfly · 01/05/2007 14:57

porcupine - does he sleep now?!?!

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ratfly · 01/05/2007 14:59

nineunlikelytales - maybe it IS early, but if an adult was inflicting this sleep deprivation on me, Amnesty international would be involved by now

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NineUnlikelyTales · 01/05/2007 15:06

Oh yes I agree. It's not just sleep though, is it? My DS has also taken to sticking his fingers hard up my nose, headbanging me, screaming loudly in my ear, grabbing my neck and other recognised torture techniques. I think they only get better at this as they get older

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ratfly · 01/05/2007 15:07

and, after a hard nights work trying to solve the elusive sleep problem, they greet you at an ungodly hour with a HUUUUUGGGGEEEE grin! Yeah, I'm not laughing.

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ruddynorah · 01/05/2007 15:09

oh bless you. thought you were going to say 15 months.

Porcupine · 01/05/2007 16:10

he had a show down at 2 years (ffs) but last kid - kept htinking he woudl grow out of a drink of milk in the night
we lost he best cup
he cried
he got oevr it

JimJammum · 01/05/2007 19:38

Ratfly - I sympathise totally. Ds is 17 weeks and still wakes to feed twice every night, which in itself is not a huge problem, (although I would prefer it if he didn't). The worst nights are when he refuses to settle back down and we play a game of "spit the dummy out and then shout for Mummy" over and over for a couple of hours. I can't offer any advice but know how you feel - after a run of bad nights I feel like giving him away, until he gives me a big beaming grin in the morning and I have to forgive him (and take it out on dh instead who has slept through it all!!!!

Hildabeast · 02/05/2007 10:03

I do feel for you, my 1yr old having a 2hr waking bonanza, and can scream like razor blades are in her dummy. They do go through phases and have knowledge that she is a poor sleeper but will do the 5 or 6 hr stint qite often and that keeps you sane. I also recommend that anyone who tells you their baby slept through at 7 weeks, or bleats on about 7 till 7 nights should possibly have their heads stoved in.

kiskidee · 02/05/2007 13:27

have you tried co-sleeping? and if so, how did that go?

katierocket · 06/05/2007 19:28

ratfly - you could be writing about my DS2 (also 15 weeks).

He is currently waking every 1.5hrs and it is absolutely totally knackering. Sometimes it can take an hour to get him back to sleep and then he'll still wake an hour or so later. Crap sleeper in the day too - will only nap for 20 mins or so and 9 times out of 10 nothing will get him back to sleep. 'They' say sleep = sleep and I do that the worse he sleeps in teh day the worse he is at night but we really have come to the end of the line in terms of how to improve it. Jeez I thought DS1 was bad (didn't sleep through night until 8 months and then only sporadically) but DS2 is definitely worse as will not even stay asleep in pram.

having DS1 also means that we can't catch up on sleep in the day - I feel tired, ill and very fed up.

It's bloody hard isn't it.

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