Getting 10 month old in own room

[blueberry71]

Hi everyone, I've been co sleeping with my 10 month old since pretty much birth. She never settled in her co sleeping cot so she's been in bed with us as well. I've made sure to keep everything safe. No pillows, no covers, in her sleepyhead etc. However she's now getting to the age where I need to put her in her cot in her own room. I was wondering if anyone can give any advice on the best way to do this? I have tried before but it ended badly as I had a whole week with no sleep! I also want to start getting her to bed earlier as she currently goes to bed with us at about 9ish. Any tips would be so helpful. I'm so sad to be putting her in her own room but I know this is for the best in the long run.

Do you need to put her in a cot?

DS is 12mo and coslept from birth. We put him into his own room a couple of weeks ago but on a double mattress on the floor so that I could feed to sleep, escape but then cosleep if necessary.

IMO it's a bit unrealistic to go from sleeping with you to sleeping on her own without disturbing you so maybe take a bit more of a long term view? Having said that, with DS it's been text book- 2 wake ups first night, 1 wake up the second night and then he slept through.

You are right. It's a lot for the poor little bubs to go through when they've spent the whole of their lives in our room in our bed. Im getting a lot of pressure from my partner to get her in her room now so that's mainly why we're doing it. The mattress thing sounds like a good idea though. Has it been quite safe? Obviously there's no bars so I wouldn't want her to hurt herself.

It's worked really well with DS, pure luck of course!! We put DD in a single bed at 16mo after cosleeping and that worked great but the mattress with DS has been brilliant. We use foam wedge bed guards that go under the sheet which stop him rolling off and we use a video monitor. He's in a sleeping with nothing else on the bed.

I'd really recommend it!

Google Montessori floor beds!

If you want her in her own room, then I would recommend gradual retreat. It's no quick fix, takes time and patience, but we found it to be very effective. It could takes weeks to achieve, but in the long run in means baby won't be distressed which is important.

In regards to late bedtimes, what time does she wake up in the morning?

If you are happy with her in your bed, I would send the partner to another room. This is not the sort of thing that one partner should pressure another over, it breeds resentment.

I'm quite happy co sleeping in my babies room to be honest. I might get myself a futon and sleep next to her in her cot. It's mental how sad I am about not co sleeping with her. It just feels very natural. But I can understand my partners point of view, as now she's in her big sleepyhead she takes up a lot of room in the bed! Thanks for all the advice