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9 month old sleep regression?

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40winksplease · 03/02/2018 10:35

Help! Sleep has suddenly become utterly impossible. We’ve never had a good sleeper- DD has always woken at least 3 times a night, but we can cope with that.
In the last 2 weeks she’s now resisting her daytime naps (which used to be ok) and crying her eyes out if we try to rock her and put her in her cot as we used to.
She’s also waking every half an hour to hour all night- she used to sleep until 10/11pm after a 7pm bedtime but now wakes 2 or 3 times by 10/11pm and sometimes we have to sit with her while just cries and cries before she goes back to sleep, albeit briefly.
By this time, I usually give up and put her in bed with me, which usually stops the crying, however she doesn’t actually sleep and will try to crawl around chatting and hyper until hour 2am. This is usually when I’m lose my mind and have a sob! Then if I’m lucky she’ll sleep for a few hours- usually with a few crying wake ups, a lot of clawing at me and on and off feeds.
She’s been to the docs and has had a chest infection and has had 4 teeth through recently (the front 4). So I know that this must be related. However, as time goes on things aren’t improving and in some ways are getting worse, I’m starting to think it’s a sleep regression. Once we think she’s fully better and over her teething, we’re considering a gentle form of cry it out that we did at the nightmare of the 3/4/5 month sleep regression- going in and out every 5 mins to soothe her but no picking up.
Has anyone else had a similar experience? I’m particularly at a loss of what to do with her in the hyper stage when she’s in bed with me from about 11-2am... any tips?! We’re also heavily mourning the loss of our evenings, which in my mind make sleepless nights easier to cope with when you can have a few hours to yourself and eat dinner, so are pretty desperate. I know if it’s a sleep regression most people will say ride it out... but has anyone has any success with crying it out or similar at a stage like this? Any advice massively appreciated!

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Needsleepnow87 · 03/02/2018 21:01

My DS is nearly 9 months and for about two weeks his sleep was off. More wake ups (even before we went to bed, same as you).

Have you got the wonder weeks app? Maybe a coincidence but my DS sleep has gone back to normal, and slightly improved the same day the app told me the leap is over (maybe a coincident?) so only lasted 2 Weeks for me...fingers crossed he doesn’t regress again!!

mistermagpie · 03/02/2018 21:11

My DS is 10 months but everything you have described is how he has been for the last week or so. He has always been a terrible sleeper but actually slept through once or twice over Christmas and I thought we were turning a corner, but now this!

Last night he did sleep 7-10 but then was pretty much up and down til 3:30 and then was up again at 6am. I'm utterly exhausted and not coping with it mentally at all. As I say, he's never been a great sleeper but when he was three months old I expected to be up half the night, he's actually worse now than ever! I feel like crying most nights and can't even be arsed going to be because I know I'll be up half the night.

No advice, because nothing I have tried makes any difference, but have a big hug and can of red bull from me.

crazycatlady5 · 04/02/2018 13:57

It’s a wonder week, all to do with learning to crawl etc. It will pss

40winksplease · 04/02/2018 18:32

I hope it passes sooner rather than later! Thanks for the support. We do have Wonder weeks but I’ve never really paid much attention as it never seems to actually reflect what’s going on- it says she should be going through a hard patch and she’s happy and vice versa....

Mistermagpie, hope it gets better for you soon too... so so hard in the middle of the night on your own. And a hug & red bull right back at you.

We had a marginally better night last night so hoping it’s a sign of things to come.... 🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽

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Rockandrollwithit · 04/02/2018 18:39

I have no advice, only sympathy.

My DS is 5 months old and has woken every half hour since birth, even when co sleeping 😴

user1493413286 · 05/02/2018 21:44

My DD was going through a similar phase for about 4-6 weeks from 8 to 9 months but (fingers crossed) it seems to have passed so I hope it does for you soon too.

tinymeteor · 05/02/2018 22:02

9 months was the absolute worst age for us too. It got better from there, albeit slowly. DD is now nearly 4 and a champion sleeper - we have to wake her up most mornings. If someone had been able to tell me that when she was a baby I'd have wept!

Looking back it was everything at once: teeth, illnesses, crawling, separation anxiety. She got over it all in her own sweet time. Give up on trying to control her sleep and control your own instead - take it in turns to nap or spend a night in the spare room if that's an option. Be ruthless about exploiting anyone who will play with the baby for an hour while you crash out. This too shall pass...

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