J is now 14 months old, and we currently have a screaming fit every night (well 80% of nights) his current sleep times are up around 7.30am, nap at 11-12.30 (ish) then bed at 7pm. if he falls asleep down stairs he screams when he wakes up in his cot and won't go back to sleep till he's ready - can be an hour can be longer. we put him down awake and he will settle himself some times others not.
he's been swaddled since birth is still for his naps as well, this is a differnt issue but I want to stop swaddlaing all together.
DH/I take it in turns to go into him on a night - now we've sucumbed thou to ignoring him - I hate doing it but I don't know what else I can do??
i've tried pupd - worked for a bit but not v long. we've tried the firm no time for bed go to sleep thing and nothing. he's quite when we're in the room and then screams by the time we've reached the bottom of the stairs.
he'll no longer go to sleep on us in his room which is good, BUT. if he's in his cot and we go in/leave him in there and sooth him he think's it's time to play.
swaddaling is now not working - he's standing up at the cot bars and is thinking it's a game when I go to his cot to lay him down (he lays down knowing that's what i've gone to do) quite cuddles aren't working - when he's in his cot he's screaming.
it's not teething - I've given him some bonjela and he's still the same. he's clearly tired but will not go to sleep. he's doing everything to stay awake - incl kicking the bars/his legs out.
talking softly doens't work, nor does no eye contact.
I realise there are a lot of methods there, one works but then stops so we try something else (stops after a few weeks sort of thing)
DH keeps telling me just to ignore him - tonight for example he's had his milk, fresh nappy water isn't too hot has a dummy and his teddy. yet is still screaming. I don't like the thought of his crying himself to sleep thou
nap wise he's good - has a bit of a whine but 5 mins he's asleep. (obv the time varies her goes down if we're out) I think today's particually bad cos he had a late nap (12 noon till 1.10) i'm thinking maybe no sleeping after 12.30? and limiting him to one hour only nap - or is he ready to drop the nap completely? my worry with letting him scream it out is he won't have as good a sleep as when he doesn't.
I really am at the end of my tether with this and have had enough.
once he's asleep then he'll go right round (and as I say if you get a good day he's up at 7 and that's it till the same time next day.) which i'm v v lucky and thankful for.
it's jsut getting him to go to sleep when he's wide awake and has no intention of going until he's ready iycwim. it's like a battle of wills - is he pushing the boundries already? surely he can't be yet?
on the plus - tonight he's finally gone down 1.5 hours late but unswaddled.