When did you stop co-sleeping?

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Just that, really.

My DS is 6 months. He slept in his cot until the 4 month regression (though still woke every 2-3 hours for a feed). After 4 months we really struggled to put him down so I have in and we cosleep.

I love cuddling him in bed for the most part, but I’m going back to work in 4 months and MIL will be helping with care. Plus he’s still waking for a feed frequently (probably because breast is in his face) so I’m hoping it will help if he’s in his own bed.

When did you manage to get them down?

As an aside, my DS cannot self settle yet, and I mostly feed to sleep (DP is good at shushing him to sleep but it doesn’t work for me).

My boy was 5ish when we stopped. But I was a single parent. I’m only sharing this because the transition was fine and he sleeps brilliantly on his own from 8pm til 8am, like clockwork. The rod for your own back argument holds little water. Whether you’re ready at 6 months or 6 years, just stay true to your gut.

Just over a year. He slept in cot for first 6 months then in with us for about 7months. In the end it go to the point where instead of feeding to sleep he was just feeding in his sleep for hours and not really passing into deeper sleep phase.

Moved him straight into a single bed (with rail) and still get in with him to feed to sleep then sneak out. Once I'm gone and he can't smell the milk he seems to sleep longer. Though he still wakes at least once a night.

We stopped at a year. Up until then his cot was dropped at one side attached to my bed... and when I remembered or managed to I put him in to get him used to 'his own space'.
I still feed to sleep and send DH In to rock him during the night (I only go in if DH can't settle him within a few mins) , we've just had our second sleep through ever ☺️

I actually wouldn’t mind him being in my bed until he was 5, but I get the feeling he will be a sweaty, flailing little thing as he gets older. Plus I think we’re going to have to kick DP out soon as the little one gets wrigglier.

Thanks for the advice. No intention of moving him yet as getting him down is a struggle enough, but I’m thinking more long term. I think smelling milk is a problem at the moment as I can’t believe he really needs to feed every couple of hours.

I think I will enjoy it for now and start trying to make the move once I’m back at work.

16 months - just made the switch a few weeks ago after DD spontaneously self-weaned. Thought I'd see what happened If, instead of bringing her into our bed, I gave her water and lay her back down. She was asleep in 15 minutes and hasn't even woken most nights since. She was already going to sleep in her cot at bedtime (with me sitting beside her) so that probably helped. But I agree that when they're ready they're ready.

I'd either do it a month or two before or after you go back. Not having you around all day will a major upheaval for him so more change at the same time might be to much.

DS's sleep got much worse when I first went back to work as he was trying to make up the time together by fighting sleep to get more cuddles.