Supper nanny back to bed technique

[Toddlerwith1ontheway]

Hi everyone, ever since my 2.5 year old has been in a bed he’s been wanting me to sit in his room untill he falls asleep, this would be fine but this has led to him waking in the night wanting me to sit in his room again for him to falls sleep, only for him to wake a couple of hours later! He’s also awake for the day around 5 unless I get into bed with him..all bad habits I know! It’s only been 2-3 weeks though so hoping I haven’t formed too much of a routine but know I need to break it.
I’m heavily pregnant and need to break this habit before baby comes! So last night we did the “put back to bed” supper nanny technique. So just kept leading him back to his bed which surprisingly to me only took 30 mins and then he didn’t wake until 5.45-miracle! I’m just curious on other peoples experiences with this? Also if he wakes in the night do I do the exact same thing?? I was unsure what to do if he woke in the night but actually didn’t so didn’t mind getting up at 5.45. Thanks x

Anyone?

Hi Toddlerwith1ontheway. Sorry you didn’t get any replies!

I’m in a similar position. My DS is 2.5 years and has never slept well. I’m now 38 weeks pregnant. We managed when he would wake up once, however for the past few weeks he’s been waking up minimum 4 times wanting me to stay in his room with him and often not going back to sleep after 4am. I can’t see myself surviving this when there is a newborn here any day now!

How did you get on?

Hey thanks for the reply! Well putting him to bed has gotten a lot easier I've walked out of the room the past couple of nights no problem. The worst past is him waking between 4-5 I just can't win with this one and don't know what to do. He has a fro clock so I just have to keep going untill 6 when the sunshine comes up to try and get him to understand he has to stay in bed untill then. This morning he got up at 4.30 and I'm still putting him back into bed now, sometimes he will lay there for a few mins but will get back out again, this is the part I really need to crack! It's making me feel very unready for a new baby to come along too. Have you tried the same technique?? X

I used the technique to get my DS to sleep and it worked perfectly (took 3 days though and lots of repeat returns!). Mornings for us were a bit different as at 2.5 he was still used to a little morning breastfeed! He does seem to be waking quite early - couldn't work out if your LO is still napping during the day? The other thing to check is that there are no noises that are waking him up. Good luck, you seems to be in the right track!

When my ds was that age and we implemented the grow clock, if he got up before the sun came up he was led back to bed, if he did it repeatedly, there was a consequence the next day.
No, mummy can't take you to the park, she's too tired because you didn't stay in bed until your sun came up.
Things like that. I wasn't being mean, I have a chronic illness and couldn't function with him up at four am.
DH and I took it in turns as well, we did one night each, unless there were mitigating circumferences. Him working would not have been a mitigating circumstance. As it happened, we both worked so it madeno difference.
We also implemented rewards when he stayed in bed until the sun.
We read the sun story frequently too, and made up our own, and constantly referred back to not getting up until the sun came up.

If he wakes in the night, do the same, back to bed and off you go. He is old enough to know you are there and he is safe, and you will know if something is really wrong. It's consistency as well, that's key. Don't give up one night because you are tired. Keep going.

It sounds like you have made some progress @Toddlerwith1ontheway
I’ve been up since 5.30. I know what you mean, 4am is like the witching hour for them.
We sort of tried the the technique last night but had to stay by his door and put him back numerous times as he doesn’t really self settle and runs in to our run tantrumming at the speed of light! Don’t think it helps that he has a language delay so our early reassurances may not really resonate.
He was up between 12.30/1am and 2.30am with constant put backs and then the same from 5.30. Just turned the light on now (6.20) and let him get up. Still rubbish but actually a major improvement compared to past couple of months.
Let us know how you get on tonight!

@Velocity that’s reassuring to hear!

@Velocity how old is your lo now? It took 3 days for us too we only started last Monday. I couldn't believe It I was expecting it to go on for hours on an evening too and the longest was 33 minutes. I originally thought it was helping for the mornings as a couple of morning we would tuck him in and he would go back to sleep for an hour or so but not this morning so very hit and miss! He naps if we're in the car but rarely at nursery, I've tried with and without naps and doesn't seem to make much difference.l also wondered about noise as his heating come on early which is pretty loud but the mornings he's slept through I've heard the heating and he's not budged, it doesn't come on untill closer to 6 and he's awake between 4-5. Also out house gets noisy when it's windy and he sleeps through that fine, I've actually wondered if he's better with noise!! x

Thanks @wowbutter I was wondering the best way to go with the gro clock as he had this just before he went into his bed. So I've been doing the same thing really I just keep putting him back like this morning untill the sun wakes up even though I knew he wouldn't go back off to sleep. Must say I have a love hate relationship with it though as this morning he laid in his bed at 5.50 and it came up at 6 he hadn't moved untill it went orange! So I think he may have gone to sleep if not but who knows.
I'll have to try the rewards and taking things away such as the iPad!!
I'm going to keep going with it as it's worked so far for actually going to bed so maybe takes longer when it's early morning/night xx

The first time ds slept through we used kinder eggs as a reward. Chocolate and a toy... major incentive to stay in his damn bed!
The worst one was when he got up about a minute before the sun, and I made him go back and my DH said I was being unreasonable, so we had an argument about consistency at 6.10am all while ds toddled back to bed, sat for a bit and came back, and watched us argueing before saying sun up mumma sun up now. I mantain I was in the right.
Blue sun... fuck off out my room and stop talking to me. Same thing could be applied to DH too. Once I'm asleep and I have my metaphorical clock on, do not disturb unless it's life or death until the yellow sun!

@Naomilj that's good at least you can see the improvement and hopefully it gets easier each night for you. How old is your lo? This seems to be a common phase just from scrolling through other posts plus some friends of mine with children around the same age all seem to be having some sleep issues. My partner works away so I'm finding it very hard some mornings but feel it's needs to be cracked before the baby is here! Xx

@wowbutter haha this has made me laugh my lb goes mad for kinder eggs so feel this would be a perfect incentive! He also goes mad for the iPad so I think I'll take that away when he doesn't do it. Although it's slight punishment for myself being 33 weeks pregnant I like the peace lol.
No I would agree with you there you have to be consistent or it would have only got earlier and earlier if you had of let him off coming out on the blue. I personally think it needs a remote so you could change the times from your own room!! X