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Is this in anyway normal or could something be wrong?

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ilovetosleep · 29/01/2018 10:32

I have the most appalling sleeper. She slept brilliantly until 4 months, gradually improved around 6 months and since 7 months has hit rock bottom. She's 8.5 months now.

Until this last month she would go from 7.30-10.30/11ish and then wake every 2 hours going back down with a very quick feed. She's now waking 30 mins after I put her down and then every 45-60 mins throughout the night. Occasionally I get 90mins.

She feeds to sleep, and wakes sometimes with a cry and sometimes just a fart wakes her up. She can't self settle and only feeds to sleep but every other wake I can sometimes easily rock her back to sleep. I fall asleep sitting up more often than not so sometimes she'll be on me for a whole hour, sometimes she goes back in her co sleeper cot.
The later in to the night/Morning we get the harder she is to put down and she sleeps in pur bed from about 5-7, but co sleeping doesn't make her sleep any better and I still have to sit up to feed her or she won't go back to sleep, and I am so tired that I feel safer putting her in her own cot.
I know I need to teach self settling but I feel she's so little and my older 2dc were not 'dealt with' until well over one and it was a very gentle process even then. I'm just finding this one so much harder to cope with and I'm sure she's worse than the other two were.

I don't think she's teething. She's very happy in the day so I suspect it's not pain. But cosleeping doesn't help so not separation anxiety either?

She naps twice - one 45 mins in car or sling and 1 90 min - usually on me. And food wise she is on 3 meals but only eats 'well' half of the time.

Help!

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teaandbiscuitsforme · 29/01/2018 13:38

If she doesn't sleep any better sitting up or cosleeping, I'd intend to cosleep from the start and feed lying down. It's much safer to plan to cosleep following the guidelines than for you to fall asleep sitting up. And you would also be resting, of not sleeping, whilst she feeds.

ilovetosleep · 29/01/2018 21:54

Thank you, we've tried that but she won't feed lying down, well she will but is all on-off and she won't go off to sleep on the boob that way. Keeps flinging herself back. She'll only fall asleep in my arms sat up.

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user1493413286 · 29/01/2018 21:59

It sounds like her problem is that she just isn’t used to sleeping without being upright or moving so won’t sleep at night for that reason.
Could you work on her daytime naps being in a lying down still motion as you might feel you have more energy then? Maybe once she’s asleep put her down to sleep and do that earlier on each nap?

ilovetosleep · 29/01/2018 22:22

Sorry I didn't mean to imply she is upright. She's in my arms in bf position and I put her down gently from there. Lunchtime naps are horizontal, I feed her and put her down next to me, co sleeping basically. But she still wakes after an hour, I re settle and she does an other hour.
Self settling is the answer, isn't it. I can't fool myself that something is upsetting her that I can fix and then she'll sleep?!

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