Feeling sad/anxious about moving Baby into own room.

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Basically that really.

He needs it so badly, he stirs with the slightest noise (my partner is a bastard for snoring) so it's not good. He also is far too big for his bedside crib. He can't stretch his arms out like he does in his cot for his day time naps and I feel so guilty about keeping him in this long.

So I know it's time, but I'm so scared/sad. He turned 6 months a few weeks ago so it's not against guidelines. Does anyone have any advice for getting over these feelings? He'll be fine, he loves his cot during the day and is actually a really good sleeper.

Thanks x

What are you scared of ?
You're only next door....
I can't really empathise as I was desperate to get mine in his own room ASAP! X

I don't know, I keep trying to think exactly what I'm scared of but I think it's mainly just he's not right next to me.

Don't get me wrong, there is a part of me that's super excited to have my bedroom back at night haha!

X

He'll probably like being in his own room ......I hope he settles there with no probs
We've all slept better since he was in his own room x don't be sad....it's a great thing! X

I think he will! He loves being in there during the day time! I think I just need to get over it haha! Thank you x

Putting DD in her own room was the best thing for us. She was around 6 months and it got to a point where we were all just disturbing each other with snoring etc. But she loves her cot!
It's also really nice to spend some time with DH and actually have a conversation and a cuddle before bed without having to worry about wake ups.

I am moving DS this weekend so I know what you mean! I think it's just admitting that he has grown up

I was so reticent about moving dd that we left it until she was one! In our roo she would stir 3 times a night and need me to stroke her cheek and pat her back for a bit. She went into her own room and slept through so it was us waking her up!

I think your feelings are totally natural....raising kids is full of these milestone moments that mark moving onto the next stage and they are bittersweet because the signal the end of a phase ... as well as the start of a new one! Don’t worry, it will soon become the new normal like weaning onto solid food and starting school etc!

I know what you mean op. I felt sad too....it's the end of a phase. But honestly, it's also great to get your bedroom back!

I cried myself to sleep the first night ds was in his own room. I just missed him being there and hearing him breathe. It was weird without him. I was really sad and like pp said it was the end of an era.
we waited till he was 7 months but honestly I do think he sleeps better with having to hear snoring or me disturbing him going to the loo etc

Thank you all for your advice! Yeah, I definitely agree it's such a big new milestone. I love having him next to me but it's not fair on him! Thanks again xx

As soon as my DD was born I was counting down the days until she went in her own room 😂

The part I loved the most was when I went to bed I could have the light on and sit up in bed and look at my phone or iPad. No hiding under the covers (I have a very bad 'screen before sleep' habit!). Plus I could make noise and just be me again. It was an amazing feeling. If I have another baby they will only stay with me for a couple of months for sure!

If you're not ready then don't do it. Or try it, and if you're not happy then move baby back. Listen to your instincts. We moved DS at 6 months and his already shocking sleep got worse and worse, so all it achieved was me getting even less sleep as I had to get up and go to his room five million times a night.

I totally emphasise! I’m far from an ‘earth mother’ but felt bereft the first couple of nights that DS was in his room at seven months or so. It just didn’t feel right to be away from my baby... In the end it was positive though - he slept better, and DH and I got some more alone time. Good luck!

Ffs - empathise not emphasise!

Could you move with him? If it's only dp waking him. It's not for everyone but I slept in one room with dc1 for well over a year, with dp in another room. Dc2 however was in own room at 6months on the dot.

First baby went into her own room at 7 months.

Second baby is still in with us and she's 14 months. I don't know why but I'm not ready. Might also be because she still wakes up 15 billion times a night 😒

I felt exactly like that. Couldn't really explain it but was very sad. DH couldn't understand it either, but I think that was what it was - another milestone. She'll never be in (permanently) with us again. My baby's growing up.
On the positive side, it is nice to have my own room back, and I think she is sleeping better in her own room.

I honestly would go with him, get a single bed in with your DS & let DH snore.

Put my DD in her own room last weekend. The first night was really strange not having her here but I've got used to it very quickly.

I checked on her a lot first few nights but I can see her through the monitor anyway.

We've had some random wakings too but I'm hoping it will settle.

Goof luck!

Gulp! My babes were born a long time ago and we moved them into their own rooms at about 3 weeks! It was just what you did.

I have to say that, apart from the initial concerns (is she breathing?!) it was fine. All of them got used to settling themselves down at night with little trouble and continued to do so. I watch my own offspring unable to get any rest as the GC need settling and will not go to sleep on their own and I guess I am glad we did what we did. They all seem none the worse for it, and did not kiss out on cuddles and lots of love.

I think OP that it is time to bite the bullet!

miss!

DS is six months, I was sad but he loves it! Sleeps far better than before. Breaks my heart a wee bit when I see him in his "big boy bed" (cot instead of next to me crib!) as he looks so independent suddenly!

Meh, dont if you dont want to. Bedsharing works well for our family :-)

You don't have to move him, you know. Just because it's not recommended before six months doesn't mean that it is necessary to do it once they've hit that age. It's good for babies to sleep with their mothers. I kept mine in with me for much longer and don't regret it at all. In your situation I'd ask DH to move instead.