What did i do wrong with DS naps??

[Jellybabie3]

So today i have attempted to get DS to nap by himself. Hes 15 weeks old. Last night he woke me every hour. I wanted to make sure he is getting proper naps (he slept alot yesterday) so have initiated a nap routine from today. Prior to this he has always slept on me.

So this morning after being awake for 2 hours i shut the curtains downstairs, stuck the sleepyhead on the couch, and put ewan on. I fed my son (ebf) and as he started comfort feeding took him off and bum patted until he was asleep. Then lifted into sleepyhead. He lasted 40mins only.

This afternoon i repeated this and hr last 20mins. I am now concerned he will be over tired tonight.

Do i give up or persevere??

If that was your first attempt to get him to nap by himself I think you both did brilliantly!!
It's not much sleep but if he seems ok then I'd be happy with that. Maybe catnap before bed.
You could always hold/walk him for one nap a day to make sure of a long one. But his naps will get longer.

My DD doesn't ever nap for that long!! How did you do it?!

Really???

Hes asleep on me now. I couldn't risk another wake up. He usually sleeps for 90min or so (as recommended)

You reckon i carry on tomorrow??

Oh just cuddle him for naps and don’t worry about it. If he’s done all that on his own he’s amazing for his age!
Hello n on my third baby and they all nap on me or in the buggy for the first six months. I’m happy with it though.
And babies getting up every hour in the night at this age is not unusual!

Oh thanks. I think I'm beating myself upnas my friends all say their babies self soothe. I am exhausted from trying. The last thing i want is to do anything to the detriment of DS

I try not to be too regimented with nap "routine" with my twins. They make it known when they're ready for a nap, I don't do much at all except turn the lamp off and maybe cover them with a blanket. They nap on the floor in the lounge on a big soft thick mat type thing. They feed approx every 3-4 hours so I feed them, play for an hour or so, then they nap if they want to. They don't always stay asleep for the same amount of time though - sometimes an hour, sometimes 15 mins. Love

I've tried not to make the house too quiet when they nap so they get used to sleeping anywhere and through noise.

Idk where the rogue "love" came from

Just for comparison: DD didn't nap longer than 30 minutes still she was 6 months old. She couldn't cope with longer than 2 hours awake at your son's age so was on 4 naps a day. It's not what any of the books said, but it's what she needed. "Routine" doesn't have to mean a by-the-clock pattern - just a consistent way of managing things.

40 minutes is the classic little baby nap length, as it is one sleep cycle.

My baby is a month older than yours, and has 3 or 4 naps a day. Sometimes she settles herself, sometimes she needs some rocking/patting, I try not to feed to sleep though.

Usually her first nap is after 90 minutes awake, and the others are 2 hours with 2-3 hours between last nap and bedtime.
Eg today up at 7.30am, nap 9-10.30am (in pram), nap 12.30-1.15, nap 3.30-4.15, and I'm sitting with her as she falls asleep now.
Some days it might be 9-9.45, 11.45-12.30, 2.30-3.15 and then I squeeze in a 20 minute nap in the sling at about 5.

I'm in exactly the same boat with my 3 month old. He only sleeps on me for naps And only max one hour ! Today I attempted put downs for a nap and it did not go well, both of us were frustrated by the end and he only slept for 20minutes in the longest stretch with lots of picking up and bouncing back to sleep from me over the course of 2 hours!

I've decided to just go with him sleeping on me for naps for now and will maybe attempt one put down a day if I'm feeling up to it. He is starting to sleep better at night so I'll just focus on that for now.

Our rough schedule is wake up at 7.30, 9.30 nap (this could be anything from 45 mins-1.5 hours but all on me so I can shush back to sleep and stretch it out). Nap somewhere between 12 and 2. I try and make this the longest nap) then another nap at about 4.30.
He'll often have a cat nap at about 6 too but I'm trying to move his bedtime earlier.

I know how annoying it is being stuck under them while they nap, or even in the sling since I can't do much without waking him. But I decided after some me advice today to just keep trying things when feeling brave but otherwise just go with it for now. I know it might cause me trouble when he's older still needing bouncing to sleep but right now we both need all the rest we can get!

Sorry I haven't got any better advice but you are doing great! Don't compare your family to others, those potato babies will just depress you!

My DD2 is also 15 weeks and i feed or rock her to sleep for all naps and at night. She will wake up after 30 mins if I leave her! I normally do one or two naps in sling and one lay with her in bed! So I get a nap too or I just do online shopping! My DD1 only ever slept for 30 mins and I wasted so much precious time trying to get her to self-settle, she did eventually at around 9 months but not through any of my efforts!!