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Lionsroar21 · 20/01/2018 08:58

Hello all. I'm a struggling Dad. My 3 year old boy who turns 4 in April won't sleep in his own bed all night. He starts off there and wakes and refuses to go back into his own bed and has a big meltdown to go into the parental bed. I get kicked out and hes in with mummy. He is very restless and causes mummy a bad nights sleep. What is also an issue is that he won't let me get him back down to sleep if he knows mummy is in the house. He has a meltdown for this. I'm so envious of hearing of friends whos children sleep all night! (Although whos to know what really goes on). Its causing so much stress and marriage problems as a lot of the time it lands on my wife just to try and get by at times which isn't fair on her. I'm really at a loss what to do. Frustratingly, there was a time where he'd sleep in his own bed say 4-5 nights out of 7 now its an every night problem. Things have gone backwards. Any help is appreciated.

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Lionsroar21 · 25/02/2018 22:54

Bump!

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FATEdestiny · 25/02/2018 22:58

When did thus start? Has he ever spent all night in husband cot, even when tiny?

FATEdestiny · 25/02/2018 22:59

Sorry, auto correct errors:

When did this start? Has he ever spent all night in his cot, even when tiny?

mamarach26 · 25/02/2018 23:09

No advice, I’m going through the same thing though. Well, very similar.
My 3yo DS wakes up every night for me to sleep on his floor. So i am following this thread!

Lionsroar21 · 26/02/2018 10:33

Its been about 5 months. He was sleeping okay before that 4 to 5 nights out of seven. He had a reward chart and build up so many sleeps to get a toy. Now he says that he'll just wait till christmas/birthday instead for toys! Not sure what happened specifically to change things back in septembet.

He has had a dairy and egg allergy since being a baby. So this might have bearing on being a poor sleeper. The doctor has confirmed this.

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Lizthefizzy · 26/02/2018 10:47

What is the actual problem? Is it
A. He won't sleep on his room?
B. He sleeps in your bed?
C. He keeps your partner up?
D. He won't let you in the bed?
E. He won't let you put him to bed?

It might seem like I'm being picky but there are lots of different things going on so it's important to decide what the main problem/s are so you can deal with those.

I hate reward charts with a passion but I know kids love them. If it was working before, but he got smart to it then change the reward so something you wouldn't do for a birthday eg a special day trip. Sometimes they just like the act of getting the sticker or a certificate for their wall is another one that is popular.

Lionsroar21 · 26/02/2018 11:11

Liz you ask some interesting questions. I'm going to have a think about it

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FATEdestiny · 26/02/2018 12:22

When did he move from a cot to a bed? How did that transition go?

Lizthefizzy post is most important though. You and your wife (jointly) need to agree on what your priorities are.

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