Help dp and I get our bed back. (posted in b&d also)

[peachespaige]

I hope you can give me some usefull tips:-) My ds2 is 9 months old and has shared a room with his older brother since he was 6 months old. He has always been absolutely fine doing this and goes to bed at 7pm and up between 6ish and 7am.
For the last week he has been going to bed and has needed settling occasionally but then is waking between 9 and 10pm very upset and will only then settle and sleep in our bed, (we dont even need to be in it)!
So here is a 9month old on a kingsize bed while mummy and daddy are in the spare room in a small double!
We've tried giving him milk which he drinks and then still doesnt settle unless its our bed.
we are thinking the last option is cc, which Ive never done.How???
I cant do it whilst he shares a room with ds1 as it seems unfair to him so think we'll have to move ds2 into the spare room. Or give both boys our room and we'll move.... Arrghh what do we do?? Sorry to babble on.

I'm probably a mean mummy, but I've always tried to settle dd, now 8 months, without taking her out of her cot, talking to her, rubbing her tummy or her back, etc, which now mostly works. On the couple of occasions she has woken after her normal bed time crying inconsolably, I pick her up, and sit in her bedroom cuddling her until she calms down and then put her back in her cot, before she goes to sleep, because if I let her go to sleep in my arms and put her to bed, she is likely to wake up yelling later.

I would encourage you to put your ds in his own cot, maybe in the spare room if you don't want to disturb your other child. If your little one wakes, pick him up and cuddle him, and once he is calm, put him back in his own bed. He may not like this outcome, and you may have to repeat several times. I think that the longer you let him sleep in your bed, the harder it will be to break the habit.

Hth