What do you do in the evening with your baby and their routine?? I would like to go to bed later than 7pm....

[Jellybabie3]

My DS is 3 months old. Up until now we have bathed, massaged and fed him and put him to bed starting from 7pm onwards. We have him in a sleepyhead which is inside a next to me cot. Because of this i have been going to bed at the same time as him and just watching some tv there while he feeds and sleeps until his final feed at 10/11 pm when i also put my head down. Now it's a new year and hes older i would really like to not got to bed so early BUT ds will not sleep by himself in his sleepyhead downstairs - no idea why!! Only on me or husband.

Any suggestions? Or what do you do so you get some time in the eve?

So glad to read this post as we’re also trying to establish some kind of evening routine at 8 weeks but it’s hard - so much advice is about dark rooms and quiet at nighttime but then SIDS advice is for them to stay with you! We’re combatting it by starting a bedtime routine at 6.30 with feed, bath, massage and bed in his room but just putting him in his pram....once he’s dropped off we’re wheeling him in to the living room so he’s with us (benefit of being in a flat!). Last night he stayed asleep for a good 1hr 30 before waking back up full of beans but at least we’re making a go of it! Took a wee while to get him settled again and had his last feed at 11:30 and he slept through till 5:30, another feed and then back to sleep till 7:30 so I’m considering that a success!

I haven't found there's any point trying to get a routine going before 3 months, and they'll settle into a routine by 6 months anyway so why stress yourself? Sleep tends to go tits up for a bit at 4 months regardless!

I have kept 16 week old dc3 downstairs with me in the evenings, feeding/dozing while we watch TV and then gone up to bed together at 11ish. However she has recently started sleeping solidly from 8 or 9ish so I will start putting her in the cot then. Our 'bedtime routine' is literally change nappy, put in sleeping bag, feed, put in cot.

Sometimes I did bath then brought downstairs, othertimes no bath or bathed in morning or whenever else seemed convenient in the day!
I couldn’t have faced doing a bath at 10/11pm when I went to bed, I was far too tired! But if that works for you then do it then. Don’t stress about getting him in a routine, they change so much and so does their sleep. You can put a routine in place any time. Just do what makes things easy for you now.
Enjoy the cuddles with him downstairs, some of my best memories are watching telly downstairs with them fast asleep on me. It’s a lovely stage and goes so fast so make the most of it.

My ds is coming up to 3months and we’ve just started a bedtime routine. We feed/burp/massage and change into pj’s/read a story/cuddle and the put him in his cotbed. He seems to sleep midnight to 8 so we do his bedtime routine at about 10 with the aim of moving it slowly earlier. We have a video monitor and play some white noise so leave him upstairs when he’s down. I know about the SID’s thing but personally I can’t spend all that time upstairs. He might not learn to nap through noise if I’m there just watching tv all the time. White noise was great for us. He goes to sleep much better with it on. Maybe try that? Babies are capable of putting themselves to sleep at 3months so it may be a bit of tough love. Put him down upstairs, let him get sleepy (humming and singing helps) and then go downstairs. He may cry a couple of times but he will get used to it. We find a dummy really helps as well. If he starts crying go back and soothe him. Increase the length before you go back by a little each time. It’s worked for us anyway. Good luck!!