Talk to me about co-sleeping, being pregnant and BFing!

[Beachballsforme]

Here’s the situation - 18 month old who is BF at night (before bed and on demand through the night, usually 4-5 times minimum) Comes into our bed at around 1am usually. Everyone sleeps fine. Am now pregnant and not at the point where my milk has changed yet (I don’t think) as it’s as popular as ever!

What’s going to happen when the new baby arrives?! Do I need to wean 18 month old now? Stop him sleeping in our bed?

For context, my DH is v hands on but works away from home 2 nights per week so struggling to get consistency of him settling DS instead of me.

I’m.
Knackered.

How old will 18 month old be when you have baby? As in, how many months pregnant are you now?

He’ll be 2 years 1 month

LLL says you don't have to stop feeding when pregnant, unless there are medical issues or you or DS want to. However, you sound really tired, and this is not going to improve in the next months. In your place I'd try moving DS to his own room now and then nightweaning as soon as he settles there. He might actually ask for boob less when sleeping away from you, and at this age you can make up for it during the day. I was very surprised at how easy it had been to move DS to his own room after cosleeping.

Good luck with the pregnancy, and with getting some sleep!

Would you be prepared to night wean him and just have the bedtime feed? Either get DH to take him back to his own room at 1am and deal with the noise or hug him. If you're aware of Dr Jack Newman's night weaning guide or Emma Picket't's they are good for guidance. My milk dried up about 2 months in although we were down to one bedtime feed of about 10s per side. Oh yes, Nursies When the Sunshines (book) also handy for the idea of night weaning.
I always liked the idea of tandem feeding but am really happy not to be feeding now!

Would love to night wean... I accidentally Day weaned when I went back to work... but it’s just not seemed the right time for night weaning recently - molars plus mammoth growth spurts! Guess we just need to bite the bullet and keep putting him in his own bed.... wish me luck! Thanks for the support x