How do I stop 15month old waking up?!

[mamamalt]

My 15mo DS wakes every night at least once or twice a night and I always feed him to get him back to sleep....!
I’m tired and I would love to be away from him for a night and know that he is not screaming the house down. He is BF but i have cut down all day time feeds and now only feed him before bed.
I know that they grow out of it eventually but help me speed things up wise Mumsnetters!!
He eats well and is 91st centile so sure he’s not starving!
TIA x

Why don't you night wean? Could you send Dad in to settle him without a feed?

Look up the pantley pull off for a super gentle way to nightwean or the jay gordon method for slightly less gentle, quicker method.

Thank you for the names @crazycatlady5! I will look into them.
@FATEdestiny glad you popped up! I am not really sure where to start with night weaning and we have just moved into Inlaws house so am nervous about lots of crying!
Dada went in last night but it didn’t settle him for long and he will be working back in London during the week so won’t be a whole lot a use in a couple of days! Eek maybe I should leave it a while. I just am dreaming of uninterrupted sleep...!

I'm in a similar position to you OP, still feeding my 15 month old to sleep. Except she is waking 10+ times a night since Christmas and I haven't had more than two hours sleep in a block for over a week. I'm not much help but following along for advice. DP is going to take over for a few nights and go in to settle DD when she wakes at night to see if it breaks the habit of feeding to sleep, maybe if your little one only has one or two feeds a night it wouldn't take many nights of your DH going in to break the habit? Could he not do say Thursday, Friday and Saturday nights? Then it's not interfering with work too much, or is he staying in London all week? You could maybe ask your PIL to give you a hand and take a few nights of settling your DC

Watching other interest as I'm in the exact same position. The Pantley thing didn't work for us - the stop/start, on/off business just wound DD up. It felt like teasing her. I haven't tried the Jay Gordon, but I'm reluctant because it involves feeding them sometimes but then not at other times, which I think would just confuse her. I'm considering just doing what we did to get her to drop off by herself: sit quietly next to her, doing nothing apart from lying her back down and phishing occasionally. That was hard but within about a month she was going to sleep with minimal grumbles in 10-15 minutes (usually!) I'm nervous about trying that out at 2am though - not sure I'll be able to stick at it!

We tried sending DH in with water a month or so ago. He lasted 30 minutes before presenting her to me saying "I think she's really hungry". So it's going to have to be me that fixes this!

@silkpyjamasallday oh my! Ten times!
Lord that must be getting tough. They’re little monkeys aren’t they?! Unfortunately my MIL is poorly and in hospital so help from them is out (FIL is not an option! 😂) and yes my partner is back in London Monday morning to late Friday night so difficult for him to help. @SleveMcDichael so I’m on my own here too! I just keep hoping he will just do it himself and start to sleep though!
He self settles fine when he goes down and naps well. He’s had times where he’s slept til 5am or 6. So I’m stuck.
Sometimes I think it’s fine and I’m lucky he goes straight back down and then some days I’m so tired I’m desperate for him to sleep!

My dd was the same up till 15 months. She was waking for milk and even that wasn't settling her back sometimes. Pregnant with second and knew the only way was to go cold turkey and stop the night feeds. Had two nights of crying for a good hour in the early hours, to sleeping through 7-6.30, if she wakes now it's usually because she's lost her bunny and then she goes back sweet as a nut.

Sorry to pregnancy bit sounds a bit irrelevant but it was my turning point and enough was enough, I needed sleep! Had to do it on my own as DH works away but it was worth it

I did Jay Gordon with both kids at 17/18 months but just cut all night feeds. Both still woke for a cuddle once but I'm ok with that. Especially as in DD's case, its now daddy who does the cuddling. 3 or 4 tough nights but fine after that.