Baby happy to sleep on own- yet this concerns me!!

[Muse84]

Ok this is a classic example of worrying regardless of what happens.

All of my friends talk about their babies wanting to sleep ON them and nowhere else.

Mine has slept happily in the next2me crib since day one. He's EBF and will wake a lot for feeds. But otherwise he sleeps.

I'm worried he's not a "cuddly" baby, at 8 weeks he doesn't seem to ever seek solace in my arms. I'm being a paranoid mummy. I'd love an independent boy but not this young!

Did anyone else have this and their baby became cuddly with them later on?

This is slightly mental I know. I just have a paranoia that he doesn't love me

He absolutely loves you! He trusts that you’re there wherever he is. He’s fine

My DD was similar when she was very little, quite happy to sleep in her carrycot alone and even lay in there awake happily. Since then she has gone through short stages of being clingy and only wanting to sleep on me but mostly is quite independent. Now at 10 months it is clear that she loves me and she does show a preference for me over others, especially when she's tired or grumpy. I'm hoping the separation anxiety won't hit so hard because of her personality! As PP said, he knows he's safe and you're there if he needs you.

My DD was exactly the same, grew into a very cuddly older baby/toddler! Don't worry!

My DD was the same. Always sleeps much better alone, she comes in with me when she is poorly but is so restless. When she was moved into her own room her sleep so even better as she wasn't disturbed by DP's snoring. She wasn't very cuddly as a baby and hated strangers cuddling her. She is 18 months now and a little snuggle monster. I would say she was about 12 months when she started coming to me for a cuddle without me prompting.

Thank you everyone- has definitely helped to put my mind at rest.

How our hearts are completely in their tiny little hands!

@Muse84 I literally could've written this!!! My DS is now 11 months and will still not sleep or settle on me/anyone at all, but he will wander over to be picked up for a quick cuddle then wander off again

I had a friend who was desperate to cosleep with her baby and the little one was just having none of it desperately wanted her own space from day one. Absolutely nothing wrong there you’ve just got an independent baby x

I had a Velcro baby but my newest one is just like you describe. Make the most of it, it's amazing!!

Many moons ago, when I had my babies, I put them to sleep in another room from the age of about one month - everyone did. They were fine and learned from the start to settle themselves. None of this staying with them till they dropped off! - they had mobiles and things to look at and music playing. Needless to say they also had plenty of cuddles and were BF. They all seem remarkably normal adults now.

It sounds to me as if your little one is just fine. They all have different personalities and needs right from the start.

My DS only occasionally slept "on me" and mostly slept on his own, he is now 9 and one of the most affectionate cuddly children you've ever met.

Don't sweat it OP

One of mine was like that - slept best in a dark room with the door shut all by himself. ( the two that followed him were the polar opposite though!)

He's always been an independent soul and at 9 he hardly ever wants a cuddle

He's very comfortable in his own skin and has lots of friends etc, but he's just not 'needy' in that way. They're all different

Thanks for your replies, has helped my crazy sleep deprived angst

Oh OP I can remember feeling EXACTLY the same as you about a year ago when DS was 2/3 months. I was worried he didn't love me as he'd often just want to squirm or seemed happier playing on his mat. I used to try and cuddle him after a bottle but unless he was absolutely shattered he was fine going in a cot, car seat or bouncer. He slept in his Moses from day one.

He's 15 months now and one of the cuddliest little boys I've ever known - his key worker comments on it all the time how willing he is for cuddles.

I’ve had 2 dc and as soon as we introduced the next to me or bog standard cosleeping (about 2 weeks old for dc1 and almost immediately for dc2) their need to be held to sleep just vanished. If they sense you’re there that’s enough.

Dd2 was completely like this. She even self settled in her crib after a night feed gurgling away to herself for 5 mins or so before crashing back out. She's now aged 3 and wanders into my room and climbs into bed with me every night.
Enjoy the peace and the knowledge that your lo is happy.