DD takes ages to settle with me and not others

[Billi77]

Anyone else have this problem? My Mum, DP, sister and babysitters take minutes while I'm in there for up to and over an hour sometimes with 18mo DD.

What are you doing for an hour ?

Could it be she expects lots of 'props' which you are happy to provide? My dgs(21 months) goes to sleep at the appropriate time - ie after bath /bottle /cuddle +dummy inserted and is asleep in seconds. With dm /df 'expects' TV on, in his /her bed /extra milk /chats!! Awake for hours during the night needing more props - which are given!! He has slept all through from the first night here @5 months old!!

For an hour I'm holding her hand and waiting for her to get to sleep. I think this is what others do too from what I've heard. But for a few minutes.
I wonder if it's to do with separation anxiety being heightened with me. That and props...

She wont be fully asleep in the few minutes other people take to settle her. They probably just "settle her" (ie hold he hand to calm her) rather than wait for her to be asleep.

I'd start letting go of her hand once she's settled. Then wait a minute or so and if continuing to be settled, make for the door.

My dcs always take longer with me than anyone else! It is because they know there’s no messing about and I’m a bit of a softie.

Tonight took an hour! At one point she was nose diving onto her bed repeatedly with a strange demonic cackle (which I found hilarious). I don't think my being entertained helps, though i do try and hide it.
She does settle and go to sleep when she hasn't napped, so I do wonder if she simply isn't tired enough and wants to play when I'm there and maybe doesn't need a nap. Doesn't explain why she's so quick to go to sleep with others. Especially my sister, who she doesn't even see that often!

Well there's your answer you're rewarding her awake behaviour - finding it funny that shes bombing about rather than going to sleep. Bedtime should be dull and boring with no incentive to stay awake.