16 month old rubbish sleeper.

[Linzi14]

as it says, my 16 month old is just all over the place with sleep.
Naps have always been the bane of my day. Never know when she wants one or how long it will be for.
Past few days she’s just outright refusing to nap. She woke up at half 7 today after a pants night from been up 330-430. She was drifting off to sleep at 1.30 on the living room floor, she Was practically asleep but I moved her, she Wouldn’t go back to sleep. I ended up putting her in her cot at 2 o clock and just leaving her to kick off which tbh I’ve never really done but I’ve just had enough. 3 o clock she finally sleeps. 4 o clock wakes.
So god knows what time she’ll go to sleep tonight and how tonight will go.
Has anyone had this?
Ps she’s not walking yet so I wonder if she’s not physically tired enough to nap but by tea time she’s not very pleasant and I tried a no nap day and the consequences that night were horrific

I’m hoping Christmas has just sent her a bit of whack, with her dad only going back to work today from Thursday.
She’s not ready for no nap days IMO.
I think I’m just having one of those days where I wish I could start again

My DD is 14 months and had a particularly bad period of no sleep/awful napping just before she started walking so your DD might almost be there! They are too young for no naps so I just had to check out of social stuff for a while and be really rigid with a nap and bedtime routine (even resorting to a drive out at the same time each day if it was too wet/windy for a pram walk) as DD has never napped in her cot) we’ve regressed over the last few days (Xmas and teething) but know it won’t last forever. Also found she sleeps better at night if she’s had a decent nap, if not bedtime is a battle so do whatever it takes even if it means letting her sleep on living room floor. Good luck!

I hope so. I know it could be worse. She’s generally a happy girl all day most days so I just get frustrated when she’s screeching at night and I have no idea why.
She’s slept through on 40 minutes all day and had rubbish nights with a 2 hour nap so sometimes I think it’s more the timing of them and bedtime that I get wrong. But it’s hard with every night been different every wake up is different therefore every day is different.

No real solutions or advice from me but just keeping you company! My 14 month old is very unpredictable sleep wise. A few nights ago she was up maybe 3/4 times... she’s just woke up this morning at 6.30 after sleeping through from 7pm. I’ve done nothing different!

Her sleep definitely improved after she started walking properly but then we’ve had the disruption of Christmas and teething.

I just remind myself that she will sleep through every night someday ...

Have some coffee

My 16mo is still on two naps a day. He's ready for his first nap 2.5-3hrs after wake up (he's an early riser so this is generally about 8 or 9am) then second one after lunch sometime.
Is it possible your dd still needs two? It does sound like she's overtired

Thanks! Think I’m just feeling a bit sorry for myself,wishing the time away so she could tell me what’s wrong!

She gets up 7/730 so the earliest I’d be able to get her to sleep is 11.30 ,most of the time it’s just over an hour so can’t really squeeze another in without it being after tea then god knows what time she’d go to bed

Ah yep, I see what you mean, I didn't really think about the 5.30 starts obviously making a difference here!

It might be worth trying say, 10 and then 2, but as you say it depends when bedtime is. On the very rare occasions DS sleeps past 6.30 we do struggle to get both naps in. Yesterday he ended up sleeping 3pm-5pm! However he still went down about 7.45-8 ish so all good. It's such a mine field and so easy to get caught up in trying to get it right

Linzi14 - what happens to get her to go to sleep?

Honestly.. not much! Night time is generally easy to get her to sleep, providing she’s tired enough. She has her bottle , I try and get any wind up and she goes in her cot, sometimes it’s not straight away but doesn’t usually take long before she’s asleep. It’s just staying asleep. Nap time sometimes I’ll give her a warm drink to go to sleep with, not all the time. She doesn’t fall to sleep with a bottle. Tbh napping in her cot is quite recent, just before her birthday. And it was something i had to work at. Otherwise it was either pushchair or car. Or I’d cuddle her n left her fall asleep on the sofa.

My mum had her today while I was st work and she’s not eaten well and napped for half an hour 🙄 so will see how tonight goes and start again tomorrow!

She is going through a leap according to wonder weeks and think her fangs are coming through . I do tend to cling to excuses like these though, and when she slept all night 2 nights in a row I thought we’d turned a corner, but evidently not lol

If she's only having naps of about an hour, I'd try for 9.30 and 2pm nap times - consistently the same every day.

The same morning wake up time too. If she's not awake by 7am, I'd be waking her then. This and nap times will get some consistency and routine to your days.

Also have a predictable and consistent method you use to get her from awake to asleep. Same bedtime, night wakes and naps.

Thanks I’m definitely going to try and get two naps in tomorrow. Just hope it doesn’t bloody snow ⛄️