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3 month old, co-sleeping, bedtime?

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Ven83 · 26/12/2017 23:59

Just wondering, how does bedtime work with co-sleeping (bed-sharing)? Say you want to put your baby down at 8 pm, does it mean you're also in bed at 8 pm? I understand I shouldn't leave the baby under 6 months to sleep alone to minimise SIDS risk, so even if we weren't co-sleeping I'd have to be up in the bedroom with him, right? According to the safety guidelines.

DS is 13 weeks old. He usually takes short day naps (about 30 minutes long) but sleeps in longer chunks at night (4-5 hours usually), waking up to feed as he's EBF. We'd normally take him to bed at our bedtime (10-10:30 pm) but as his morning wake up time has stabilised at 6:30-7 am lately, I believe I should be putting him to bed earlier to get enough sleep? Especially as his day naps are so short and not particularly restful.

He is overall a happy baby, very alert and doesn't cry much as long as he's held. I normally wear him in the sling for most of the day, including naps. He does get fussier towards the evening / when he's tired, but most of the time isn't very hard to get to sleep, and doesn't depend on feeding (can be rocked instead).

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OoohSmooch · 27/12/2017 00:12

Baby bedtime was the most amazing feeling when we introduced it at about 3 months. I'd suggest for safety reasons you maybe see if he'll sleep in his crib if you want to stay up or you'll be a slave to his bedtime.

You can then bring him in with you later on but safety wise I can only advise to cut down on co sleeping. My daughter did a little co-sleeping with me, but only half way through the night if she didn't settle (and it was a superking bed and just me in it as me and DH sleep separately). From 6-7 months I pretty much cut it out due to the risks.

SellMySoulForSomeSleep · 27/12/2017 00:13

I co sleep with mine at 4 months and she just comes to bed when I go. Although gets a bit grouchy if we are not in the bedroom by 10pm ish.

We are up at 8 for the school run. She has a feed and then goes back to sleep with the walk in the pram for an hour or so.

It seems to work for us as I like that break straight after dropping DD1 off.

I don't really try and keep to a routine. I'm happy to go with the flow for now.

Her naps are just as and when she needs them. Sometimes very short if DD1 is noisy.

Hopefully someone will come along who is actually helpful for you. I've just read it back and it sounds like I don't have a clue. ☺

crazycatlady5 · 27/12/2017 09:18

At 3 months my little one was just napping downstairs until I went to bed. She’s now 11 months and we still cosleep. I feed her to sleep and put a video monitor on, then go to bed later.

Ven83 · 27/12/2017 22:35

@crazycatlady5 When did you start putting her down and at what time?
If we keep him downstairs DS tends to rouse after 25-30 minutes like for his day naps. If I take him to bed he can go for several hours.

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Callamia · 27/12/2017 22:44

sellmysoul if you don’t know, then neither do I - i do just the same. Baby sleeps in a sling or on us downstairs and we take him to bed when we go - anything between 9:30 and midnight. Tonight, he’s slept through a noisy card game downstairs, and came up with me at 10:30.

InTheRoseGarden · 28/12/2017 08:25

Like PP, with both of ours we put the baby to sleep downstairs with us at 7 ish and carried the baby up when we went to bed.

Sparrowlegs248 · 28/12/2017 08:27

Get a sleepyhead. Put baby to sleep in it in the front room. Take baby upstairs once you go to bed.

Once they are older, put baby to sleep in the cotop. Co sleep from when they wake up.

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