New born screaming when put down

[Chloejaye96]

My 3 day old baby has reflux, but settles fine on me but whenever I put him down to sleep he cries like mad!!! I've tried propping his cot up, and tried swaddling neither has worked!! Need advice!!!

Who has diagnosed a 3 day old with reflux??

Is he going down awake or asleep? He's very tiny still, he might just need the comfort of his mama

Have you tried white noise? Theres ewan the dream sheep and other things you can buy but could download an app on your phone for now? You can get some that replicate what they would have heard in the womb. I was skeptical but I do think they heloed her to settle. She's always hated swaddling!

Solidarity. My DD was like this but she has slept like a log from 5/6 weeks.

It's heart burn

Head above stomach at all times - use a folded towel under the mattress, cushion for nappy change

It's the position rather than you

Also. If baby needs to sleep on you I really think thats ok if you do it safely and it means you're both getting sleep. They're used to being cocooned in the womb. Some babies just need their mummys.

He's got Ewan the sheep which does help. I'm worried about baby sleeping on me, how is the best/safest way to do so?

3 days old is so young. He probably just needs comforting from you. Both of mine were like this. It's normal and they do grow out of it. Enjoy the cuddles.

Google the fourth trimester and get a stretchy wrap. I wasted so much time trying to put DS2 down that I drove myself to despair. With DS3 I went with the flow and he eventually let me put him down. Babies want to be held.

I absolutely love cuddling him, I think it's just the tiredness & hormones probably!!! I'll have a look at them thank you xxx

Anotherdayanotherdollar was there any need to be so rude to a new Mum with a 3 day old baby ?!
Keep baby propped up, have you spoken to a dr or midwife about it.

Wasn't intentionally rude, just concerned that a "diagnosis" had been made which probably worried the op in the first place! I think most 3 day of babies will bring back feeds as they clear mucous from their system. Certainly wouldn't want to have her worrying unnecessarily.

My dd was like this at 3 days old. I found it so hard. She was so, so unsettled for her first 2 weeks. It is quite normal as they are adjusting to life outside the womb. Things I found worked (wish I had done them earlier!) - swaddle, dummy, white noise.

I would persevere with the swaddle - my dd didn’t get on with it at first, but it really helped.

If it’s any consolation, she was sleeping through the night by 8 weeks old, so don’t panic, you will sleep again!!

I'm with anotherday in that 3 days old is way too young to be diagnosing reflux.

OP your baby is likely screaming as it is totally human nature to want to be attached to you 24 hrs a day. They are working hard to build up your milk supply too. None of my dcs would tolerate being put down to sleep by themselves until well over 3 months.

Thank you for the lovely constructive advice, the other less constructive advice really isn't helpful to a first time mum but thanks any way👍🏻👍🏻

Who was it that diagnosed the reflux OP?

Neither of my children would be put down in the first few days, they just wanted to feed to build the supply up. After about a week they were fine. My youngest did some huge mucus vomits as well- it’s just clearing their system after the birth and stuff.

Might be worth checking if there is any label or anything on the mattress or on the sheets that could be causing discomfort as well. Most unlikely but worth checking.

I also would be interested to know who has diagnosed reflux in a 3 day old. There are many reasons a small baby cries when you put them down, it's quite worrying to think someone has told you it is reflux in the space of so little time when it could be so many other things.

A GP diognosed reflux

Maybe he just wants to be held by his mum! Most babies do.

He might be hungry. That’s the usual reason a baby cries.

A GP diognosed reflux

Please go to see your regular GP

This is totally normal. Look up the 4th trimester and safe cosleeping. Some like to use swaddles but mine hated it. Your babe has been inside your tum next to your heartbeat and warmth for 9 months - he doesn’t know ANYTHING but you right now.

tried swaddling neither has worked

Any baby fighting against a swaddle is exactly the sort if baby who will most benefit from a swaddle. It recreates the tight, enclosed feeling baby had 1 week ago when cramped inside your womb. That's why it's naturally soothing.

Swaddle wants to be quite tight around the shoulders and arms.

Place baby in centre of the long side of a cot sheet* take one side over baby's shoulder and arm, under bum and up other side. Pull tight. Take other side of the sheet over other shoulder and arm, under bum and up other side. Pill tight. Don't wrap tight around hips, allow free movement there.

• It's easiest to cut a cot sheet in half along the short edge, because a cot sheet will have too much excess material. This gives you two very long, thin rectangles to use as to swaddles.

There is no need to medicise what is normal newborn behaviour. There is a large probability this isn't reflux, just baby being a baby.

Babies spend nine months being rocked about and feeling nice and enclosed in your womb. Baby is probably quite rightly wondering what the hell is going on.
We had a swaddle pod which helped later on but your baby is still so so tiny. We literally just took it in turns to cuddle my son that early on.
If he needed a feed I’d take him back.

Baby sleeping on you is fine! If you falling asleep at the same time which can be dangerous especially on a sofa.

Also you could try and keep a muslin down your top to get your smell on it and warm up the Moses slightly with a hot water bottle. Take out the bottle and put the muslin in there so the Moses is warmer and smells of you.

My DS was the same for the first couple of weeks! It drives you a bit nuts doesn’t it because all you want to do is sleep! But he settled eventually, I put my t shirt that I had been wearing that day flat in the crib so it smelled of me and also used a rolled up cellular blanket in a u-shape in his cot so his body was cocooned a little from shoulders to kegs (looking back this was probably a SIDS risk though I kept the blankets away from his face so use this with your own judgement!) also swaddled and used white noise. You will