God please help! 1 year old won't sleep. In tears...

[Bexiloumoon]

I'm in desperate need of some help, I'm so sleep deprived I just want to cry or die so I can at least get some Sleep!For three weeks my 14 month old has decided he doesn't want to sleep at all. It started off that he had ear infections in both ears so he was waking up a few times a night but eventually that cleared and for one night he slept through...then this hell started.

He follows the same bed time routine but he just keeps waking up. At first it was 1-2 in the morning till about 4 then he would drop off but now it's literally every hour-hour and a half after going to bed he's awake screaming. And I mean screaming. I've given him medicine before bed, we've sat in his room with him, we've left him to CIO I (took three hours for him to settle and I'm not a fan of that long). This week so far we've had Sunday night,woke up screaming at 4 after finally going to see at 11:30. Put into bed with me and OH went to sleep on the sofa but just screamed and cried in our bed till he fell asleep at 7 and woke again at 9. Monday night he woke at 10:30 OH tried to settle him till 11:30 then I went in. Ended up actually getting IN the cot with him so he would stop crying,he crawled about for about 45 minutes and then finally fell asleep next to me. I snuck out and had to go back into him at 3 for a quick settle and he finally woke up again at 9. Then we have last night. He woke up at 11ish again, OH couldn't settle him,he had two lots of medicine but he ended up in bed with me and asleep within 10 minutes till 6:30.

He's gone from sleeping right through to being an absolute nightmare and my relationship is suffering because of this. We honestly can't work out what is unsettling him so badly. We can see his "fangs" look like the are about to break through but surely this couldn't cause this much disruption? We've even stopped him having naps in the day in the hope it will exhaust him for bed time but it's not made a blind bit of difference, just made the bags under his eyes bigger!!! Please help,I'm so so tired by this point I've lay in bed next to him and literally sobbed while he's been screaming

I can't be of much help but my 14 month old just went through a phase like this recently. She usually would go to sleep when I put her to bed but she started screaming and refusing to settle. I couldn't leave the room. She would also sometimes be up all night. It was on/off for a few weeks then she went back to normal (until she got ill then she's back to waking a lot at the moment). She didn't seem ill at all at the time and some of my mum friends with babies the same age seemed to have sleep problems around the same time.

I'm no help as my 15 month old has never slept through.

It probably is his teeth though. We've got teething at the moment and she'll only sleep after 3am if she's touching me.

I'd just bring him in bed with me at first wake up and try to both get as much sleep as possible - but I know most wouldn't, hopefully others will be along with advice from the other perspective soon.

I wouldn't stop him napping in the day, if he's overtired by bedtime he's even less likely to sleep.

I should have said not letting him nap in the day doesn't seem to have made a difference to him, the childminder has said that he has seemed happy and hasn't whined or even tried to have a nap in the places he normally would eg in the car, in the push chair on the school run. When it comes to bed time he's not dropping off straight away either, I still have to work at getting him to sleep as I would normally.

Definitely don't stop naps during the day. He's far too young and will be getting overtired as a result.

No other advice other than if bringing him into your bed let's him sleep, I'd do that until you're all more rested and in a better frame of mind to tackle gradual withdrawal in his cot/bed.

Sleep regression? I remember it being pure hell at that age as it coincided with me going back to work and one or other of my twins was up all night and up for he day at 5 at the latest. We just had to ride it out. It was truly horrific.

Definitely don't cut the nap as overtiredness makes it even worse.

What is the bedtime routine that happens from him being fully awake to fully asleep?

As mentioned above, don't drop naps. Baby wants to either be having one 2.5-3h nap or two naps adding to about the same.