Routine for 14 month old

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Dd is 14, almost 15, months and I feel like her sleep is going backwards.
She cut down to 1 nap about 3 months ago and seems happy with this. But it is taking me over 1.5 hours to get her to bed on a night.
I am wondering if her routine is out as she is, and always has been, a late riser.
So, she went to bed last night at 8. Took a bit to get off but slept through til 9:15 this morning.
Went for a nap at 1:15 and slept til 3:30
Then I put her to bed at 8 but she has only just properly gone off.
I have thought about waking her up earlier but am not sure if this would be the right thing to do.

She falls asleep in her cot with my hand on her back at the moment. For one glorious week in September she was falling asleep completely independently but that stopp d as quickly as it started.
We were doing gradual retreat but this is as far as I got.
I’m finding sitting next to her cot for an hour and a half every night mentally exhausting and it is killing my back.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Dd is now 10 years old. Remember thinking I had cracked it and then dd had other ideas. All I clung to was routine, fresh air, exercise and regular feeds. Which worked except when it didn't. I know it sounds like I'm being dismissive of how hard it can be. Everyone says to me now "Oo, it went so quickly ". It bloody didn't. Not when you are on the inside.
I had health problems myself and this routine was the only way. Dd had mostly dropped her morning nap by 14/15 months and was an early riser. She still had afternoon naps by this age.
She has pretty strict routines even now. With wiggle room for kicking back now and then.

We put her to bed earlier but she got up earlier. 8.00 looks later to me but that's only because that's how we roll.
I didn't let her nap for mor than about an hour in the afternoons. Again, that suited how we rolled but not the ONLY way.

Thank you so much for your reply.
I am at a bit of a loss as to what to try. I got her up at 8:30 this morning thinking that it might help but she is such a grump! Obviously still tired.
We have always had a good routine but I feel like it’s somehow off since she went to one nap.

. I know it can be tough when you go down to one nap. Don't beat yourself up. Chances are, it will settle if you have recently made that tweak. I remember us clinging on desperately to the afternoon nap but dd just started staying awake. I also remember taking my now grown up police officer nephew for a walk in his pushchair for the morning nap. He was at the "dropping the nap " stage and generally gabbled at birds and traffic. Except when he still occasionally nodded off. Stay strong and treat yourself often.

If you want to keep the later morning, I would expect your routine to be:

● 10pm / 10.30pm to 9am / 9.30am nights sleep

(11 hours would be expected at this stage)

● 2pm to 4.30pm (ish) nap

(5-5.5h awake time and 5.5-6h awake time)

Thanks fate. So would you suggest that a wake her in the morning?

Do you want/need her to get up earlier?

If 9-9.30am suits you as a wake up time, no reason you change it. You can't expect a child-free evening and a lie in though. Work on the assumption of 11 sleep overnight (range if 10-12h would be normal) so bedtime wants you be after 10pm for a 9am wake.

I’m not bothered about the lye in. I’m always up before her. It’s more that she’s always slept 8 til 9 so we’ve continued with the same routine.
I always just assumed that she would wake up earlier if she needed less sleep.
Seems that we’ve gotten into an odd cycle that I need to break.
I find it hard to get my head round waking her, especially after so many months of trying to get her to sleep. She still seems tired on a night though.

Lie not lye

I have a v similar situation. DD takes a looong time to get to sleep and is normally down by 8.30 and will sleep till 8.30 or beyond. Sometimes the lie in is down to crap nights sleep, which is down to teething/trapped wind pain. She takes a 1.5 hour nap from 12ish to 1/2ish.

However I've found if she skips the nap completely she will go down at 7ish and sleep till 8/8.30. So you can get the YOU time and the lie in. and the overtired toddler bouncing off walls

I always woke my dd as and when I felt she'd napped for long enough. Again, don't get the false impression that I had it completely sussed 100 % of the time and what works for me must be right for you.
I woke her gently with a little song and some more daylight (or whatever). Lots of cuddles etc and play. I just kept daytime naps to about an hour at that age. Won't pretend bed time was always quick and smooth but I got into the habit of singing the same songs/telling the same tales at the same part of the routine so she kind of had a cue.
Bloody singing . Bloody stories about cats/dogs we'd seen
Courage, ma brave.