Sleep training that doesnt involve crying for hours!

[llynnnn]

Is there a method of training a 9month old to go to sleep on her own and resettle herself in the night that doesnt involve being left to cry? I've tried cc but she cries so hard that it makes her cough and she vomits.
She used to be such a good sleeper but she is getting worse each night and we cuddle or feed her back to sleep several times a night. she is also waking up full of beans at 5.30 and wont go back to sleep, but by 6am she is tired and sleeps for another hour!
I'm pretty sure she is not teething or has any pain etc.
Any ideas anyone?
Thanks

hi, llynnnn, i have been trying the gradual retreat method with my dd who is almost 8 months and i cant praise it enough. i didnt want to do cc and have tried ncss with some success, but this seems to be the one for us. we had a few tears the first night, less the next night and so on, but i didnt feel too much of a green meanie, cos i was there with her iyswim? she still protests most nights initially, but its definitely an 'i'm tired and want to go to sleep' cry rather than an unhappy one. we never used to have evenings as she'd wake hourly, but she now settles herself and only wakes due to hunger. hth and good luck!
gradual retreat

thanks Tibsy sounds good, so at the minute we cuddle dd to sleep, under this method would we put her in the cot and hold her there? even if she cries we dont pick her up?
how long have you been doing it?
sorry for all the questions!

llynnnn - i started off with holding her in the cot, cuddling her. she offered some resistance, ie she cried!! but she did get it after a few days. i really do hate crying, but it was something that i could cope with better cos i was still with her. i woudldnt pick her up unless she got really upset, but you have to do what you feel comfortable with and what your dd can cope with.
i've been doing it for several weeks with a break cos i thought that her readiness to move thru the stages was when she didnt cry at all,.... i'd be waiting til she's 21!!!! when i moved to the holding hands stage, i'd also put my face up close to hers and kiss her cheek if she got upset it worked.
have only just moved on from holding a hand on her tum to sitting by the cot and i still maintain contact with her feet. you've got to do what you feel comfortable with i think.
if you want to, please join us on sleep is for the weak, you'll get to meet mums who have tried other methods too and are having some success. we're all still getting there and its very changeable as the lo's move thru the developmental stages and stuff. hth

sleep is for the weak!