Stopping night feeds while bfing

[Wardy25]

Hi I'm new hear and just wondered what all you other bfing mums did to stop the night feeds

My dd is 14 months on 3 meals a day plus snacks and still has boob at least 4/5 times through the day I'm trying to stop bfing as I'm 11weeks pregnant and if I'm honest I've had enough now I can't go anywhere or do anything without her getting my boob out
She still wakes 4/5 times a night for boob n it's killing me I have 2 other dds who have to up at 6.45 for school n I just feel drained all the time

Any tips greatly appreciated 😊

Not into controlled crying I can't bear to see her crying
Sorry for long post

I've got no advice I'm afraid but I'm in a very similar situation and can't put my 23 month old to bed without bf to sleep! Hopefully someone will provide some good advice.

With DD1, at 12 months we moved from offering boob at night wakings to offering a beaker of water and a cuddle, then put her music on. Then when that was ok offered the beaker but just stroked her head or tummy, then put music on. Then she started putting the music on herself if she woke up. If she cried I'd go in.

She was pretty much sleeping through in a month or so, so not an instant fix but it worked for us.

She will only have a beaker of juice or water in the day. I have tried with cows milk but she refuses it and spits it out
I have tried to give her alternatives but she will just cry until she gets it.
I have also tried the cry to sleep and check thing but it's not for us as she wakes everyone up lol

We've just night weaned 9mo DS. I spent a bit of time (about a month) preparing... started by giving porridge after dinner and moving the last BF to before pyjamas and story. Then moved the last BF to before bath - both times the BF was in a bright room and not his bedroom.
Then basically just picked a good night to start. DH was going to do it but I knew I wouldn't be able to stay in bed and listen to it all going on so decided to do it myself. Also I kept a 10pm dreamfeed for the first few nights until it wasn't working anymore - see below.
Night 1 - he woke at 1, I brought him into my bed he didn't cry but shouted at me quite a lot, letting me know he wasn't happy. It took about 45 minutes for him to fall asleep, then I put him back in the cot. He stirred again at 4 but I just went in and popped dummy back in and he went back to sleep.
Night 2 - same but woke at 2 and only took 30 minutes.
Night 3 - woke at 2.30 managed to settle him in his room (still picked him up) in 10 minutes.
Night 4 - went a bit t*ts up as he woke at 5 to 10 before the dreamfeed. I think this confused him and he then woke at 12, 2 and 4 although he was fairly easy to get back down each time. I don't think he knew why he was awake as he didn't pester for a feed, just wanted a cuddle.
Night 5 - no dream feed. He woke at 2 and brought him into bed - took 30 minutes
Since then he has still woken but only once or twice and he is getting quite good at settling himself. One night we've had 7.45pm-5.45am which I thought was pretty damn good.
He has started waking at around 5.45 though which I'm hoping to start pushing back - I don't feed him until at least 6.15 so hoping he might start sleeping a little later

Oh okay I may try that as DD is still in our room as we haven't long moved so her room isn't complete yet so I may do it all in 1 when she's in her room after Xmas.
Thank you
Also how did you kind of explain to your day that there's no boob available anymore? Or did u just ignore when he tried to get to it?

Ds sorry

I've heard the Jay Gordon technique is good. Gently phases night feeds out. I'm planning on trying it after Christmas.

I ignored... he kind of pats my chest. I also wore a dressing gown everytime I went in and tried not to touch it too much as then he thought I was going to feed him if I rearranged it at all.
Good luck!

I right okay thank you I will give it ago 🙂

Jay Gordon? Is it a book or can it be found online?

I have just looked it up online it seems quiet insightful I may buy the book and give it ago if the method mentioned above doesn't work or to help find ways that work for us thank you

What worked for us was daddy doing bedtime so no boobs available! My DS didn’t even ask but he was a bit older (14 months). I kept up with a night feed if he woke but he very quickly stopped waking and slept through.

Ooh and in the day what I did was, kept all feeds to one place when at home. For us this was my bed upstairs (I’m lazy) then stopped going up there. He was mainly feeding before naps and eating well by that stage. Naps went a bit of for a while but it was good to stop )I was also pregnant). Now it’s all started again with the new one, good luck!

I second Jay Gordon, helped me a lot

drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleeppattern.html

That said, if you are pg it might all come to a natural end soon - I have heard that milk changes flavour in the second trimester, and ds1 self weaned (he was older though) when I hit the second trimester with ds2...

DH can't do the bed times he just plays with her and then tells me to give her boob lol she's a major daddy's girl.
I have tried in the past but have gave in as I didn't see what harm it was doing but now I'm pg again I want her to sleep through so it won't be like I'm waking every second feeding as it will be tough enough with a new born

Thanks for all your comments 😊