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Battle for naps- help!

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Heg1984 · 11/12/2017 14:46

Looking for some advice! Getting my 5 month old to nap is a bit of a battle. First nap of the day is easy because he naps in the pram when I take the dog for a walk and will generally stay asleep even when we go back into the house and stop. After that though, naps often don’t happen unless we happen to go back out so he is in the car or pram. I do not want his sleep to be reliant on us not being indoors as I getting to the point when I feel I can’t actuslly spend a day at home.
Today the weather is terrible but we still went out for our morning walk so he has had one nap. I have just managed to get him to fall asleep in his cot but to do so I now feel like a terrible Mum!! I waited until it was obvious that he was starting to get tired and I put him down in his cot with white noise (just like we did at night). He was happy there for about 10 mins and then started to cry. I went in and picked him up, waited for him to calm down and then put him back now. I repeated this several times (felt like a hundred!) until it got to the point that he was constantly screaming even when I was holding him. I could feel myself getting angry and I hate feeling that way with him so I quickly put him down and went and stood in the garden (in the pouring rain!) for a few minutes until I had calmed down. I can’t back in to complete silence and a fast asleep child.
I am so pleased that he is having a nap but can’t get over the guilt of leaving him screaming. I do not believe in leaving a baby to cry but I just didn’t know what else to do. Can anyone give me any advice on how you have made day time naps less traumatic for you and your little ones. I feel like I am constantly obsessing about his sleep. Thank you

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AMagdalena · 11/12/2017 15:04

Don't have much advice to offer as my 4.5month old is asleep on me atm.
Have you tried the dummy when settling your lo for a nap?
I was successful a couple of time in the last few days, but her naps are still very short, so it feels like a lot of effort and still ends in tears at times.

lightcola · 11/12/2017 15:07

I’ve always found the morning nap is easier than the afternoon. Could you put him in his cot in the morning and walk the dog for his afternoon one? And don’t worry about leaving him to cry too much. Better that than you getting angry with him.

RoryItsSnowing · 11/12/2017 15:13

I have no advice as I'm dealing with the same issue and currently sat downstairs while they scream and scream in the cot as I couldn't cope with another second of it in my ear, giving myself 3 minutes then I'll go back up. We've had a grand total of 20 minutes sleep today and I think I might lose my mind because even when we have a successful day with napping, there are wakeups every 30 minutes at night.
I think I'm on the verge of a breakdown.
Really hope you get some progress soon.

Heg1984 · 11/12/2017 15:29

Thank for some of the suggestions. He point blank refuses a dummy which I was really pleased with to start with as I never wanted to use one but do wish that I had the option of using one.
A good idea to try the morning nap in his cot which I will have a go at on a day when we are in. The only reason I have always done that way round is so I know the dog has been exercised if we are going out and leaving her.
Good luck to everyone else trying to deal with this too. I never knew how stressed I would get about daytime naps. It was so easy the first few months when I struggled to keep him awake!

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FATEdestiny · 11/12/2017 19:26

Don't wait until he is obviously tired. The ideal time, when getting baby to sleep will be easy, is the just-got-tired point. This is around half an hour before any outward tired signs.

At 5 months old, this will be around 60-90 minutes from last waking up.

Heg1984 · 11/12/2017 21:37

FATEdestiny I have been putting him down about 2 hours after waking up as he doesn't ever really show any outward signs of tiredness until it is too late. Maybe I will try putting down a bit earlier and see if that makes a difference. Thank you

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