When do you start getting them into a routine?

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Our little boy is one month old tomorrow and has slept really well most nights. I usually bring him up with me when I go to bed (between 11pm and 12am) and be eels for
4 hours, had a feed then straight back to sleep.

Don't get me wrong, we have had a few nights where something has disrupted this, such as Timmy ache etc. But on the whole his sleep pattern has remained quite constant.

However, I would like to get him into a routine of going to bed no later than 9pm as that way my husband and I can have some time together, plus I would like him to settle when he is in the room on his own rather than just when we are in with him.

So tonight, at 9pm I gave him a little top up of milk and then brought him up at 9.30. I left him and he remained fast asleep and I have just come up at 10pm. This is the first time I have had him in bed earlier and would like this to be something we can do regularly but not sure if it is unrealistic at this stage.

@Desmondo2016 I've been back at work since he was 2 weeks old as I am self employed and gradually increased the hours. Working 5 days at the moment as work weekends as I am a professional rider.

@crazycatlady5 I am just looking into buying one. I have an ergobaby for walking but it's too bulky for the house I think.

@Sipperskipper I'm going to try and get my books started tonight with him asleep on me and see how we get on. Unfortunately, although he rode with me right until the day he arrived, he just lies in his pram asleep during the day now 

@Queeniebed Haha, that would probably happen to me! My daughter slept in her own room from 3 weeks old, mainly because I kept waking her up as I am a very poor sleeper and because she was so good she was getting very upset about me keep waking her. This little guy doesn't seem to be bothered by me being awake once he passes the 11pm mark... before that he just wants to be snuggled!

Just as an addition, my godmother is a very high level therapist and she has been up north the last few days. She was explaining that when a baby is born it doesn't see itself as separate to the person it is with, no matter who that is. As a result, when they are on their own they don't actually realise they are on their own because they have no concept of self. However, the moment they start to find their hands and their toes is the big change and the point they realise that they are a separate being and not attached to someone. It is at this point they start to realise they are being left on their own and this is a very common point of sleep regression. I just thought it was interesting.