7 month old

[bathghter]

Currently (desperation) co-sleeping. He’s bf, his naps are sporadic, he isn’t interested in dummies. It takes me around 30-45mins if feeding to get him to sleep. Then I go downstairs to weep eat or drink something, or, heavens above, shower, and within 20 mins, each night he’s awake and crying. He will eventually go back down if I cuddle/bounce but it’s a long hard slog with many failures along the way — boob is better.. 5 mins. How can I stop him from waking up when I’ve put all that effort in to getting him to sleep?

Hi Op, I just want to give you a bit of something to look forward to. It was like this for us for months and I was pretty depressed about it! I would never sleep train or anything so I was wondering if there was ever an end in sight. The good news is, once she hit 9 months she suddenly went down at 7 and didn’t wake until 1am! She’s now 10 months and that’s the pattern :) she doesn’t sleep through the night and I don’t expect her to but I get an evening! Hang in there x

@crazycatlady5 🙏🏽😥 I’m totally with you. Don’t mind a bit of night waking at all but every 20 mins for most of the evening is a nightmare. Roll on the day he fixes himself!

This is my life at 9 months. I'm praying fervently that this too shall pass! Sorry, no advice.

It gets better I swear!!! My now 2 1/2 year old sleeps from 8-8 and he was still waking for at least one feed at 20 months but it's hard tbf I just gave in and accepted my evenings ended at 8pm for a long time. It's bliss now expecting my second very soon though so il be back to sq1 before I know it

Loads of sympathy for you! I’m currently watching my my 7mo on the video monitor thinking “don’t wake up, don’t wake up!” Things have been better the last couple of nights for me after getting a white noise toy and feeding very frequently in the day to make sure he’s not playing catch up at night time (after a long think about it I realised I hadn’t been bfing him as much as I would normally do as weaning seems to be taking up so much of the day and he’s soooo distracted by rolling about and sitting he wasn’t asking for it as much!)

@BorahT i think weaning, crawling, sitting etc has a lot to answer for as you are absolutely right, we don't have long stretches on the sofa anymore.. 5 minutes and he hears something and he's off to investigate!

I am hoping this is a difficult age Op- mine was up last night at 9.30, 12,2, up at 5. Had two full feeds in the night and takes quite a while to resettle.

Crazy cat hope you are right! Did you do anything or just ride it out? Mine has never slept though or even close but has been better than he is now. He has always got up really early - sometimes 4.30. I leave him babbling then he poo's etc and doesn't nap for 2hrs after that.

Mine self settles and has a dummy so I'm kind of a bit stuck!

@chosenbyyou honestly months 7-9 we’re pretty damn tough to be honest. I wondered when it might possibly get better and was really struggling. I didn’t do anything as really don’t believe, other than sleep training (which I wouldn’t ever do), that there is anything that helps other than time. I tried certain routines etc but it didn’t work for my little one, she’s always made her own rules more solids didn’t make a difference either. It was all down to hear learning so much at once - clapping, crawling, waving, new sounds. Suddenly I put her down at bedtime and like above I STARED at the monitor waiting for her to stir. Waited. Waited. It just didn’t happen, I couldn’t believe it! That was at 9 months and she hasn’t woken until either I go to bed or 1/2am. The last couple of weeks she’s been sleeping much longer stretches and the night before last actually slept through (11pm-7am) which I could not believe!

Hang in there!!

@crazycat thank you for your words of support. This is great - I always have a niggle in the back of my mind that I'm doing something 'wrong' regarding the daytime sleep and that is why she is unsettled but to be fair it's really hard to get a routine when her wake up times can be 4.30 or 6.30!

I will just plod on for now. Tried stuff with my first and nothing really worked - she slept through on her own accord at 14 months just like your LO has just done! I could never do any crying techniques as I just don't have the heart for it - I'm a fairly hard old thing but I can't sit there and listen to it. When I look at the baby I think that he wants to sleep but he is struggling - I need to help him not upset him?!

Anyway thank you and hope OP is getting better luck xx