13mth old naps and evening sleep

[LittleMissScatterbrain]

Hi, a few quick questions for you. DS will be 13mo next week. He usually has one morning nap from 10-11:30 and one afternoon nap from 16:00-16:45 (approx times, length of nap pretty much consistent but actual time of the nap may vary +/-30mins). Evening involves dinner at 6pm, wind-down from 6:30 and bed between 7-7:30pm. Wakes 6:45ish most days.

For the last month he has not gone down easily for his 10am(ish) nap and now 4/7 days he now goes down any time from 9:30am to 11:30am (sleeps for 1.5hr).. and depending on when the morning nap happens it has a knock on affect in the afternoon. If he goes down after 10:30am there is a VERY high chance he will not have a nap in the afternoon. So then his dinner time is brought forward to 5:30pm and bed at 6:30-7pm. Wakes at 6:30am.

Is one nap of 1hr20-30mins in the morning enough sleep for a 13mo in the day??! How do you make that transition from two to one naps? He never seems to sleep past 1hr30mins, so it's very unlikely he'll have one long nap of 2-3hrs at lunch time.

Finally, about bedtime sleep. Even after several efforts at cc ds still fusses before going into the cot at night. Our current routine (has been around for 2months+) involves lots of hugs and lullabys in rocking chair for 10-15min and then into cot, he fusses, then quiet shhhhh-ing from me all the way to the door (takes another 10+mins). Some nights crying once we're out the door. Is this 'good' or can we get it better?? (ie. wishful thinking on my part!) TIA

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Not sure what to suggest - I'd say just go with your ds. Perhaps he's ready to drop the afternoon nap & to have dinner around 6.oo ish & in bed around 7.30/8.oopm ish. My dd doesn't really have any scheduled naps & will just have a short nap if she needs it. Often in the morning she'll sleep in my arms for 20/30 mins & then might have a short rest pm. She's in bed around 8.30/9.00pm & up about 7.00am. If he's able to play & keep active without seeming tired then see how you go. My dd often has a short rest in the car & this can keep her from needing a nap at home. Good luck with this.

ds dropped his morning nap at about this age, his afternoon nap became earlier, for a while he slept 11.30-1.30. this then gradually became later at about 1-3pm. then at 2 yrs old he decided to drop the naps altogether!!

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I hadn't thought about thinking along the lines of 'his afternoon nap coming earlier'. It seemed like it was the aftn one he was going to drop!

I'm not sure if 13mo is too early to start trying to keep awake until 11:30. Some days he just looks so tired by then (usually the day after he's missed a nap) so he's napping at 9:30-10am again.. I guess at the end of the day he's a happy bunny 95% of the time so he must be getting enough.. It's just hard to plan a day when you just don't know what's gonna happen when

How are your little ones in the evening? Do you they fuss alot? I have other friends with babes around 12-15mo and they all say they go into their cots quite happily...

Dammit, missed the opportunity to use an envy face then !

DS (15months) wakes at around 7am and stays up until about 12.30 and then has 2 hours and will then stay up until bedtime at 7pm. He doesn't fuss at all - although I am waiting for the day that he will!! I don't give him the opportunity to fuss tbh. I take him into his room after a bath and teeth clean and I say that it's bedtime, we have a cuddle on my old feeding chair and then I put him into his cot, say night night softly stroke his head once and leave the room without looking back and giving any eye contact!! We learnt the hard way with his sister with extended routines...
I think that around 13 months I was putting him down around 11.30am for a sleep and depending on how much breakfast he'd had either with or without a snack. Now I give him an early lunch and a snack in the afternoon to get him through until teatime. I do think that you should follow the lead of your DS and as long as his daytime naps don't affect his night time sleep he obviously needs them. Good luck

Dd, 21 months, for a long time needed 2 naps a day as she'd only sleep for 1.25 each one and we never seemed to get her to go longer than that. So at 13 months she was up at 7ish, napped 10.30-11.45ish and again at 3.00-4.15ish, then went to bed at 8pm. Around 15 months I decided to drop her morning sleep as her afternoon one was getting later and later and interfering with her bedtime so I kept her up and gave her lunch at 11am (she'd be almost asleep in the high chair at first) and she did huge sleeps of 2-3 hours at first, which have generally regulated down now to about 2 hours, 12.00-2.00pm, sometimes more sometimes less.

As to your question about fussing at bedtime, dd varies. For a long time she'd do a kind of 'grumble' cry which I think was her way of switching herself off into sleep mode. Then she had an awful phase of screaming, then one of calling my name for ages. But in between these she's been pretty good. At the moment she goes out like a light without a peep, but I'm not daft enough to expect it to last .