Mummy in need of some advice

[TwinkleStars15]

Just typed a massive post and thought people would get bored reading it so have condensed it!

Key facts -

4 months old
Exclusively breastfed
Good bedtime routine of bath, swaddle, feed and she’s asleep
Always goes down in her side cot
Used to sleep quite well at night

What i need help with -

I think she’s become totally dependent on a feed every time she wakes up and won’t go back to sleep without it. This wouldn’t be such an issue but she’s waking every 2 hours now which she never used to do.

She won’t go back in her cot after the first feed so she’s co slept with us since birth.

She stirs at around 1am, if I leave her she wakes and cries, if I scoop her up and lay her next to me she’ll go back to sleep for a few more hours.

I don’t mind co sleeping but not if she’s going to wake every 2 hours! She can’t be hungry that often so I know she doesn’t NEED a feed every time.

What do I do to help her sleep better? I know she can self settle as she does it every morning for her nap!

Any advice is welcome

crazy I love co sleeping and feeling close to her, it’s just the best feeling. Although when she’s out of her swaddle and thrashing around I might not ha!

wet yes you’re right, this thread has made me realise that I just need to ignore all the ‘advice’ and go with whatever works for us. When she’s weaning things may change - she’ll definately need to be up before 10am lol, but I’ll worry it nearer the time and enjoy our lazy layin’s for now.

Oh @TwinkleStars15 please ignore the 'bad habit' stuff. It's in the same vein as 'you'll make a rod for your own back' and when people talk about newborns manipulating you for cuddles and feeds.

At 4 months no baby has the ability to consciously decision make like that. She fusses when she needs basics - food, cleaning, comfort (and comfort is a need not a want too). Your baby is only just out of the fourth trimester (Google if you haven't, it's interesting!). Little babies can't be spoiled.

In your position I'd just ride this out. It'll pass (and then it'll be on to the next thing, but you'll manage, we all do). Enjoy the snuggles and get your rest in whenever you can.