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Light sleeper- what can I do?

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kbaby · 19/07/2004 09:56

DD(7 weeks)is a really light sleeper. At night when she first goes down she will go in a deep sleep for about 4 hours after that and all during the day she only sleeps light. This means that she wakes up every 10-30 mins grizzling or tossing and turning and skirming about. In the day she wont go down and so when she wakes after a few minutes on my lap I have to re rock her back off.
It may be a silly question but is there anything I can do to help her have a deeper sleep?
Come the evening shes so overtired because she hasnt slept properly all day.

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zebra · 19/07/2004 10:05

Does she sleep better if you cuddle her? Else, Swaddle.

CountessDracula · 19/07/2004 10:13

My dd was the same - I swaddled her and she was immediately a good sleeper (though still woke easily). Actually IME nearly all babies are fairly light sleepers for the first year!

There is a good book that tells you all about swaddling, here . Helped me no end

frogs · 19/07/2004 10:34

What you're describing sounds like an overtired baby who hasn't quite worked out how to go to sleep by herself.

Newborn babies will just fall asleep by themselves wherever they are, but as they get older they get more sensitive to external stimuli and will find it harder to sleep when they're tired.

You need a set of consistent cues that will always be present when it's sleep time --eg. cot/basket, curtains drawn, maybe a sleeping bag, possibly some background noise (radio 4 always worked well for ours).

Ideally you don't want her to get used to anything involving large amounts of active participation from you (rocking, singing, cuddling), because as she gets older it will take her longer and longer to fall asleep, until you'll be spending the entire evening sitting by the bed patting her back (or whatever).

The idea is that once you've got past the first few difficult days, the baby will then 'know' what to do when it's sleeptime, hopefully bypassing the whole "fussing and fretting in an overtired way" routine. But it probably will mean you spending quite a bit of time picking her up, patting, and putting her back down in the basket until she gets the idea.

I'm not really into letting them cry for long periods, but at certain key moments going off to make a cup of tea and coming back five minutes later can be quite effective.

hth

frogs · 19/07/2004 10:37

Also agree that swaddling is a brilliant way of letting them know that's it's sleep time. It seems to make them feel nice and secure as well.

kbaby · 19/07/2004 10:48

its strange. during the morning i play with her and when she starts yawning i take her to her moses basket upstairs and put a lullaby on and stroke her head. she drops off to sleep and will sleep for 45 mins. After that time she will cry and if i leave her the crying gets worse so instead i pick her up calm her down and she drops straight back off to sleep, but if i put her down again shell cry straight away. For the rest of the day i cant put her down to sleep at all and so she sleeps on my lap but will wake every 10 minutes or so. At night i feed her and get her drowsy and then lay her in her moses basket with a lullaby and after a while she will go to sleep. But after a few hours she starts stirring, She wont quite wake up but seems to cry, grizzle, moan and move artound all in her sleep. i swaddle for all sleeps. Its as if she just isnt sleeping deep enough to be refreshed

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bunnyrabbit · 19/07/2004 14:02

Hi kbaby,
My DS is also a very light sleeper, and still wakes up sometimes when he hits that part of his sleep cycle. Tends to be about the 45 min mark.

It's not at all unusual to have the 45min problem during the day. If you search you'll find hundreds of threads in the archives on this one!!!

I think it was about the 8 week mark that we started the Pick up/Put down technique. I think it comes from Tracey Hogg's Baby Whisperer. You basically pick them up and calm them down. As soon as they're calm, before they fall asleep, you put them back in their cot/basket. Leave them for 30 seconds, if crying then pick them back up again and keep going. Only took us about 20-30 mins the first time, but I know it can take longer... only took a few goes before he was settling himself.

I like this technique 'cos you are comforting them and you are also teaching them that it's time for sleep and how to put themselves back to sleep.

Having said that, there are some lunchtimes when I just give in. But then as I work full time, I kinda like the extra cuddles .

BR

bunnyrabbit · 19/07/2004 14:04

Also there's the 2 hour rule. After they've been awake for 2 hours, put them down for a sleep....

bunnyrabbit · 19/07/2004 14:06

Oh and DS (10 months) always use to make a ridiculous amount of noise in his sleep. He'd cry out, snore, cry, grunt etc. but it seems to have got better as he's got older.

BR

kbaby · 20/07/2004 11:19

bunnyrabbit do you still have to do the pick up put down, if so how long have you been doing it and how long does it take you now.

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bunnyrabbit · 22/07/2004 12:56

Oh no we haven't had to do that for ages.... never took very long when we did.

BR

bunnyrabbit · 22/07/2004 13:04

Sorry, meant to add that, now he's older, if he wakes during lunchtime sleep and gets distressed and doesn't go back to sleep after about 15 mins, I get him up. But then he is a very good night time sleeper, and I now know that he'll be OK for having slightly less sleep.

Oh and DS is a GF baby so I was always quite strict on sleep times untill he was about 6 months.

BR

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