Putting LO back down in the night - 10 weeks

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So my little one is 10 weeks and becoming more difficult to settle at night. Normally she'd go down well during the night after a feed but she has been up since 4 currently and each time she falls asleep on me I put her down and within 5 minutes she's woken herself up and is screaming again.

She won't take a dummy - no matter how much I try.

I swaddle her.

She hates white noise (used to like it).

I've tried the 'shhhh' pat pat method.

She has a sleepy head, I've did the hot water bottle thing.

Can anyone help or give me some supportive advice? Much appreciated!

What happens if you put her down before she has fallen asleep on you? My DD used to cry if I moved her when she was asleep but was ok if she was just sleepy

She cries too I was thinking maybe I was letting her sleep on me too long & the minute she falls asleep after a feed to put her down but she has reflux so that can also mean she's sometimes sick when I put her down. I am really struggling today! X

Have you tried just wrapping her in a blanket (not swaddling) and putting down? I.e. So that there isn't too much of a temperature difference between changing positions?

Can you tell I'm in the same boat with ds2 - also 10 weeks

Just seen reflux - have you tried raising the head of the bed (rolled up towel under the mattress etc)

Because she has a sleepy head I can't do that :-(... I think she's just getting used to being held and I'm worried I'm also creating bad habits! how is your ds2 doing?

DD is now 21 weeks so I'm struggling to remember (sleep deprivation!) but I think at 10 weeks we were able to start getting her to associate particular lullabies with sleeping. We just hummed them.

Also did all the feeding in the dark, no nappy change unless it was a poo and no talking other than shhh or "it's ok".

Once she gets a little bit older you can introduce more sleep associations and it does get easier I promise

Thank you! As she hates white noise I'm thinking of baby meditation music. She listened to 30 minutes of it last night before kicking off.

Ive also started feeding to sleep - I've just did it there and she's fell asleep (and hasn't stirred yet!)

For some reason I'm massively raging at OH who got up at 20 past 5 to go into spare room to sleep. He has work so I can't be annoyed and know I'm being completely unreasonable!

Yeah, hate this age. My last two babies I just didn't bother putting them down really and coslept till 6-7months when they were suddenly ready for their own room. Gradually I managed to put baby down from 7/8pm till about 11pm when I'd just go to bed with them. Would do this till about 7 months then put them straight into their own room when their awareness started increasing and cosleeping started to get shit.

You really, really can't create bad habits at this age. Do whatever gets the maximum sleep for the maximum number of people. Feed to sleep, co sleep- do whatever works.

It will get better, I promise.

Is she like this during the day?

DS is worse at night but right from the start he's been a complete Velcro baby!

Try not to worry about bad habits, at 10 weeks there is so much time to change things around. To a certain extent, if you can, try to enjoy the snuggles. Which is extremely difficult when you've had no sleep and dp has so unfairly fucked off for a good snooze (as understandable as it is it's bloody annoying).

What is she like lying flat out of her Sleepyhead?

Why can't you raise the mattress if you have a sleepyhead? I did - didn't realise you weren't meant to! Definitely worked for us.

How do you feel about safe cosleeping? You're not creating bad habits - babies have a natural need to be in close (skin) contact with their mother at this age, it's not anything you've done it's just nature I definitely recommend looking into safe cosleeping anyway and see what you think. Otherwise as others have said perhaps try warming the mattress - I know ALOT of people recommend laying them on a sheepskin but I personally don't know the ins and outs of safety with this?

Good luck x

Have you noted a change in feeding recently? Are you breast, bottle or mix feeding?

This sort of fussiness could be down to baby needing more calories, calorific needs increase quite significantly around 3 months.

She doesn't like to be lying flat so I normally prop her up! She wouldn't sleep till 11 last night and was up at 1.45. I fed her in the dark and didn't change her nappy, have tried to put down twice so far but she isn't having it!

Duh, silly me. I just assumed you couldn't prop it up? Although I'm now thinking with her reluctance to be put down that this isn't the issue.

Fate, she seems to be on the boob longer then rooting so it'll take 4-5 latches on whereas before it was just the once. Although that once still lasts as long.