Any ideas on whats wrong with DD

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Please could someone help! My DD is 14 months. Slept through really early and has been doing 12-14 hours for a long time (sorry I don't mean to be insensitive to anyone with non-sleeping baby). We went on holiday at the start of the month and she woke up every other night crying, we put her in our bed and DP slept on the spare bed whilst on holiday and figured she's just not liking a different surrounding. But we've been back nearly 2 weeks now and she hasn't slept through a single night. Every night she wakes up screaming like a banshee, I can console her at all and eventually have to give her milk (about 3oz). She is then unsettled but sleepy in our bed (poor DP has to sleep on the sofa which is causing him back ache and he has a physical job), she tosses and turns constantly all night so I'm not getting any sleep. She has bern poorly with a cough and cold last week so I would expect some waking but usually she will go back to normal 1-2 days after. I don't really want to continue these night feeds as she doesn't need them. DP wants to sleep train but I don't think I could do it plus we live in a flat and I don't want to upset the neighbours. Do you think it's just a phase or should I be doing something different?

What time is her last meal?

Could you give her a warm milk & sime weetabix or porridge as late as possible?

Is she teething? That often goes with poor sleep and a cough and a cold

She has dinner at 4.45 and bed at 6 where she has 9oz of milk but I could try some weetabix too.

I would take her to the GP to get checked for an ear infection

She could possibly be teething but is having no other symptoms and it hasn't lasted this long before

Playing you like a fiddle!!
Out your bed ASAP. . .
Supper and a later bedtime - water only during the night. .

How do you know she doesn’t need them? She is still very young to be sleeping through, every baby is different though. Mostly likely hunger or a development thing and they all have sleep regression at points this is normally paired with a new skill being learnt, growth spurt or teething. I wouldn’t sleep train ever but that’s just me. There is a lot of evidence that it effects a child so young quite negatively but obviously there will be a lot of people that have done it and say it was great for them. Have you tried white noise to soothe her?

Playing you like a fiddle winter??? Really she is 14 months she has no concept of manipulation.

Winteriscomingneedmorewood

playing you like a fiddle the most outdated comment I've seen on mumsnet for a while.

It could be teething, growth spurt, separation anxiety or sore ears maybe. The only other thing I can think of is night terrors - if she wakes at the same time each night. To treat that you gently wake about 10 mins before the night terror is due to begin & that is supposed to break the cycle.

It could be now she's home she's reluctant to give up the bit of milk she's having but assuming you are following your old (successful) routine I would rule out everything I could, even getting her checked by the gp if necessary before I started sleep training.

Try a nightlight.

Oh it's hard work when this happens !
At 14 months she doesn't need a 9 oz bottle of milk before bed or any milk during the night . If she's genuinely thirsty she will have water

Shaz gave good advice .

Not all babies have sleep regression either .

Thank you all for replying. I'm going to try everything so tomorrow will call GP to get ears checked, will get a night light, try white noise (although she didn't like that when I've tried before) and I will give her some weetabix before bed.

It's different times every night so I don't think it is night terrors but will keep an eye on it.

I think I was just concerned that she will be like this forever but I can deal with it if it is illness/growth spurt etc.

Both of mine went through this after a week away, both were just unsettled, and a nightlight worked both times. Hope it works for you!

I think she's probably poorly and/or in pain.