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Sleep - or lack of!!

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MamaToMonsters · 19/09/2017 10:32

Hey all,
I'm new here so I apologise if this thread has already been started elsewhere (I suspect it probably has).
So basically, I have three children - the first two are dreams now - don't get me wrong they didn't start off sleeping through the night, it was a struggle to get there, but by about 6 months they were fab sleepers. The problem, I suppose, is with my youngest. I am not even exaggerating when I say he just doesn't sleep. He's 7 and a 1/2 months old and has never slept longer than 45 mins - this goes for night time too. I am literally beyond exhausted. I work and I'm just about to begin my third year of uni. I feel like I am dying - I can barely keep my eyes open anymore! I normally bring him down in the morning from about 4am as he screams until i lift him out of his cot and with my daughter at school and my partner at work (he works 10 hour days, 6 days a week), they all need their sleep and everyone was becoming ratty.
I just don't know what I am doing wrong - he is in the same routine as my other two, with a bath, massage, 2 books, final feed then into his cot for 7:30. He can get himself to sleep not an issue, but it seems that as soon as he hits 45 mins, he's up wide awake and it takes a while to get him back to sleep.
My partner helps as much as he can, but with a lot of work on, the night times are purely up to me. The health visitor has suggested that I ask someone to look after him for the day and I sleep - but really, this isn't doable because I too have work and now uni assignments to complete. I have thought of giving these up because I feel so miserable and tired, but I don't want to be a failure - I want to stick to my 5-year plan as next year I will have a much better paid job. I've even taken him to the doctors numerous times to see if there is anything wrong, but no he's medically sound!
I don't know I suppose at the end of the day it's a bit of a waiting game. I can't force him to sleep! But if anyone has any ideas, that will be great!

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crazycatlady5 · 19/09/2017 10:35

You're not doing anything wrong he just sounds like a high needs baby - I am in the same boat with my 7.5 month old! Can you not take him in to your bed at 4am instead of downstairs so you can both get more sleep?

MamaToMonsters · 19/09/2017 10:52

I've tried co-sleeping, but he ends up waking the other half up as he's so fidgety! I'm sure one day he'll sleep, I just hope it's sooner rather than later! I've been looking at the Lush cream 'sleepy', though i don't want to buy it and get my hopes up lol!
I hope your LO sleeps soon x

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crazycatlady5 · 19/09/2017 11:00

Could your OH sleep on the sofa for a bit then? You need your sleep too! My husband works and when baby is in bed the fidgeting wakes him too, but the baby is both of yours and you both need your rest Smile he sleeps downstairs when he needs a good nights sleep xx

FATEdestiny · 19/09/2017 12:21

MamaToMonsters

His 45 minute naps in the daytime, how many per day and how long is he usually awake between these sleeps?

What do you do to get him back to sleep in the night?

MamaToMonsters · 19/09/2017 12:34

Yes that might be an option crazycatlady5 - I'll put it too him!

He only naps twice in the day, the nursery in which he goes to whilst i'm at work have said that they too struggle to get him to sleep! He normally sleeps about 9:30 until 10:15 and then not until 3. He is turning into a proper grouchy baby.
To get back to sleep he has his baby mobile on as he enjoys the soft classical music it plays and has done since birth. If that fails - when at 2am it usually does, I pat his belly for half an hour to calm him down. But he WILL NOT for the life of him go back to sleep after 4am. It becomes an incredibly long day!

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LapinR0se · 19/09/2017 13:18

How's his eating and does he have any health issues such as reflux or allergies?

crazycatlady5 · 19/09/2017 15:48

After 4am what happens, do you just immediately take him downstairs? What happens if you feed him lying down in bed?

Have you tried having white noise on all night? We play rain and I find settling little one in the middle of the night can be quick x

EightyNine · 20/09/2017 12:34

Have you tried lying him on his front instead of back and/or wrapping him up a bit warmer? This can help some to sleep. If you're worried about SIDS you could get an apnea monitor?

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