Dd won't let me put her down!

[Kat160417]

That's it really. She's 5 months and every time she falls asleep and I put her down she just wakes up!

Tired is an understatement

My DD did this, every day, every night.
Its very very hard.

We co-slept & I had her in a sling or on my hip every second of every day.

I called her Koala baby.
I just had to go with it, as a lone parent. I needed sleep.

Can you put her crib next to the bed & hold her hand?

it didnt work for me

I have a next 2 me so she's already next to the bed and tried holding hand but it doesn't work.

Ive never been keen on co sleeping but might need to

Just in case you haven't tried it, tho I'm sure you have, have you tried the surreptitious route?
Put her cuddled into your chest, let her fall asleep. Sit in bed leaning against the headboard. Very slowly slide yourself down the bed until you're lying down with her lying on top of your chest.

Then very gently & slowly tilt yourself to roll her off. Keep as much contact as you can between your bodies until she's off you & very slowly separate.
Can you tell I've been here a few times she with do it forever.

Coldhandscoldheart yeah this is what I do now. No matter how long I keep hold of her or how slowly I put her down etc she always wakes up as soon as I let go!

She needs to go to sleep where you want her to stay asleep .
Transferring is awful sleep habits

Exactly what I was going to say loop. It's the transfer that's the problem, she needs to fall asleep where she's going to sleep for the night.

Have you tried putting a hot a water bottle in the next 2 me to warm it up before transferring her? Remove it just before. The change in temperature from nice warm mummy to cooler sheet used to wake mine up but this method helped. Not 100% successful sadly but did work sometimes.

Sleep with the baby. That's what nature intended.

Cosleeping saved my sanity with a baby like that. Nothing else worked!

LoopThehoop so are you saying its better to not hold them to get them to sleep?

I'm worried that co sleeping will cause her to be really clingy. I've heard some stories from friends whos dc still sleep with them at 2!

She might well be in your bed for 2 years or even longer, OP. But that's because co-sleeping is biologically normal, and what babies are designed to do. My first was like this, and it was torture until I embraced co-sleeping fully. You're unlikely to be able to 'make' her fall asleep in the cot on her own, as suggested above, without a lot of crying and upset for both of you.

In my experience with three kids ( and I was terribly against co sleeping, if they're wired that way then go with it . Mine co slept till 3 but then they went into their own beds and rooms overnight without a fuss come age 3. They are very independent now .

She goes to sleep fine in the next 2 me after her bottle on an evening but the difficulty is if she wakes through the night for a feed she wont go back in then.

I guess because I've never been keen on co sleeping I haven't properly looked into it.

What are the best things to use for co sleeping? I know about sleepyheads but they are so expensive!

She isn't stopping you putting her down. You are stopping you putting her down. Let her learn to settle herself. Put her in a cot and walk away. Don't rush back the minute she grizzles if you know she's tired. Let her cry and she'll go to sleep.

I think the sleepyhead is good reassurance for you but you don't beed it. If you want one try eBay second hand

Co sleeping has worked really well with us too. I can literally be inches from his cot but he would rather be in bed with me - sleeps solidly then.

Crumbs1 yeah this is what I fully intended to do when dd was born! She used to be really good for settling herself too but then she just suddenly decided she didn't want to sleep, ever!

We used a sidecar cot. You can get a normal one and take a side off it and attach it to the bed, or you can get a special 3-sided one. I found that easier than bed-sharing because it meant more room, separate sleeping space for the baby, and we could gradually get her used to sleeping in a cot on her own.

"Let her cry and she'll go to sleep" works less well when you have a baby that screams themselves into vomiting very rapidly! Some babies just want/need to grizzle and fuss a bit on their own, but some don't come with a "grizzle and fuss a bit" setting. All babies are different - so what works for yours and you.

Couldn't disagree more with Loop and Lapinrose. They assume all babies are the same. I also have a 'koala baby' and getting to sleep in the cot or elsewhere just does not work and never has (she's 7 months) she gets very worked up and I'm not willing to have her that distressed, or me, for the sake of 'bad habits'.

Can you feed her to sleep lying down OP? This can work if you bottle feed to, snuggle up with her and the bottle? Then she technically is going to to sleep in the same place then just leave her there and transfer when in a very deep sleep (a couple of hours later) x

Ps. I also wasn't into Co-sleeping but 7 months in I love it, we all get more rest, and her Daddy loves having a snuggle in the morning. Everyone in my family that's older says they wished they hadn't worried so much about bad habits and things and had just enjoyed their babies more, so I'm going with that school of thought.

No you assume that all babies will Co sleep as well .
Mine wouldn't fall asleep next to me or in my arms 😅
Goes both ways .
I'm out . Can see how this is heading .
Fucking judgment instead of helping op

Fucking judgment instead of helping op

You probably didn't intend "awful sleep habits" to be judgment of OP, but honestly, when you have an unpotdiwnavle velcro baby and people are telling you off for sleep habits like it's your choice, that's really what it sounds like. I am past those years now but I foubd those comments really frustrating and upsetting at the time, because the implication is "your baby would sleep fine if you weren't doing this wrong."

Unputdownable even

Fair point .
Sorry for that your right .

What I'm saying though is not all babies will Co sleep .
I tried it and dd wouldn't settle anywhere near me .

She's saying " thinks all babies are the same "
No.
No I do not think that .

@LoopTheHoop that's a bit of an overreaction. I wasn't being rude, I was just disagreeing with you. By saying baby 'could do with going to sleep where they wake up' sounds to me like assuming all babies are the same/they're easy to settle in one way. As above, when I had a very very clingy newborn who would not sleep unless touching my skin, people telling me I have bad habits was very upsetting and unhelpful.

I do very much agree that some babies won't cosleep, a friend of mine would actually LIKE to cosleep but her baby just kicks her away so yes, it totally goes both ways.

No hard feelings or offence intended

No I didn't mean it how it came across .
Sorry about that .

Either embracing Co sleeping or putting baby down where they go to sleep is what I would suggest .
I wouldn't leave a baby to cry alone though .
There a gentle ways to do this if op wishes