Sleep help!

[musicmummytobe]

Hi!
I was wondering if any of you lovely people could give me some help and advice on getting my 1 year old to sleep well. I really don't think CIO would be right for her but have tried the pick up, put down thing with no luck at all. I currently have to lie down with her in my bed and then transfer her to the cot after she has fallen asleep next to me. We sleep in the same room as our house is an odd back to back Victorian terrace with each of the four rooms over four floors so whilst she still wakes a lot, it is too difficult to be on another floor. She stays asleep for about two hours then cries for me so I have to do the same again but then usually leave her in my bed with the monitor on or she wakes as soon as she is in the cot. Then when I go to bed, I transfer her to the cot successfully and she stays there until about 3 at which point I normally have to bring her back in with me. Needless to say, I am getting a bit knackered and she has no clue how to self soothe. I have tried so many times but she gets so distressed so quickly that I give up. I really don't want to do CIO (no judgement, know it works for many but just don't want to) so do any of you have any ideas?!
Thanks so much in advance x

Hiya, I did controlled crying but staying in the room by the cot and singing nursery rhymes and then gradually bum shuffling towards the door. So my Ds could hear me not not really see me. It took a while.
He sometimes lets me put him down happily but in the last few days he is screaming so I'm trying controlled crying but come back every 2mins. It's heart breaking and very stressful . First night it took 1.5 hrs and now 30 mins. He's 15 months and I have no options but to do this.

I'd say gradual withdrawal is a bit of a middle ground. Do the bedtime routine in this order for 'healthy' habits:

Pjs
Milk
Teeth
Gro bag
Book
Bed - wide awake

Then sit in a chair next to the bed but facing away. No eye contact or talking, just sit there. She will eventually go to sleep.

Repeat for all sleeps and night wakings.

When she's got the hang of that. Move your chair closer to the door and repeat, inching away until you just put her down and walk out of the room.

@user1474462227 @missanony
Thanks both so much for replying - it sounds like both your methods are much more bearable as I feel that if she knows I am there but I'm not holding her/laying with her then it is a good compromise. Will try it tomorrow, thank you again

How did you get on music?